Our world is upside down

[heartbreaking]

Almost at the 5 months mark. I cried yesterday. Knowing the verdict is coming soon and then the next step will be decided.

My OH is struggling. It's never got easier for him he's lost everything and has very little fight in him.

I hope when it's needed he will step up and fight these liars

[AmandaF]

Sorry to hear you're feeling bad HB- I hope you get some clarification soon.

I don't hate life- I just hate the system that allows these things to happen. I take comfort in the simple things now- I have nothing left materially so just try and enjoy time with family and good friends, even looking at the moon and thinking how wonderful things we previously took for granted are.

It's life changing

[Wifeofaninnocentman]

Had a dreadful day today. Cried lots and hate life. 4 mo the in....still alive ... just

I understand how you feel. Hang in there. You will get through it. Often its the not knowing that's crippling, I remember feeling desperate and physically sick with worry. When you know what's happening you will find new resolve and a strange kind of relief as you will know what you are dealing with. I wish you the best and sending love and a big hug. Hang in there xx

[YearsOfHell]

Hang in there!!

Had a dreadful day today. Cried lots and hate life. 4 mo the in....still alive ... just

Hi Hun.
Hang in there. You will have bad days. Probably more than the good.
Keep going tho.
There's always something good to look at, you just need to find it.
Don't give up.
We can't let them win!!!
Big hugs
YoH

[heartbreaking]

Dreadful day

Had a dreadful day today. Cried lots and hate life. 4 mo the in....still alive ... just

[Wifeofaninnocentman]

My other half was taken in last December, and we are still waiting for a date.
Just found out his preliminary hearing will take place at the end of August, but unsure if it will go ahead as the files from the police etc are STILL not complete.
I'm growing more anxious every single day .

Hi JEM92

Welcome to the forum. It's a great first step to have posted, as I learnt a couple of months ago. I used to just look and read hoping to find comfort and then thought I need a little more as its a scarey time we are going through. Anxiety is part and parcel of this process but you will get through it and you will cope and come out the other side even if it doesn't feel like it at the moment. My husband was arrested and questioned earlier this year and we are awaiting a plea hearing. Please know you are not alone and as I found you will find strength from all the lovely support people on here. We all understand the same set of feelings which is a great comfort.

[heartbreaking]

Nope. Nothing ...... It continues. X

[AmandaF]

Have you heard any news yet??

[heartbreaking]

So stuart sutton chased the file for us and we where told the cps would have a decision on the 14th.... then he chased again and no news as yet. We still sit and wait.

[Casehardened]

[MMM72, have moved your post to a separate thread]

[jittery]

hi

Jittery I have to say I believe so few men are noble, like yourself and ours.
The male adults in our FA's case used their partners as a human shield, got them to tell lies on the pretext that the"men" weren't even in the house when disclosures were made.
Their partner's statements had absolutely nothing to do with truth and IF (and it's a massive one) it would be the partners who would be done for PTCJ, not them . Clever eh? Or so they thought.

With charges laid against them both now I am hoping at least one of the women will be honest, even if it's only to finally drive the last nail into the coffin of their very much guilty OH's.

I can't say much now as I am hoping and praying the latest developments will have some positive consequences for us

Well there's always people like this about. It may not be politically correct to say so but some small few are scum to put it politely. Let's hope they all reap exactly as they have sown!

[AmandaF]

Jittery I have to say I believe so few men are noble, like yourself and ours.
The male adults in our FA's case used their partners as a human shield, got them to tell lies on the pretext that the"men" weren't even in the house when disclosures were made.
Their partner's statements had absolutely nothing to do with truth and IF (and it's a massive one) it would be the partners who would be done for PTCJ, not them . Clever eh? Or so they thought.

With charges laid against them both now I am hoping at least one of the women will be honest, even if it's only to finally drive the last nail into the coffin of their very much guilty OH's.

I can't say much now as I am hoping and praying the latest developments will have some positive consequences for us

[jittery]

hi

Oh I feel your pain so much!
My stomach is churning over and over and I feel like I've been kicked by a bull!
I don't know what SS are going to say or do. I feel helpless.
I think I'm going to lose our little family too.
We are all here for support and we must never give up.
I know I will be fighting this through.
I have worked too hard for what we have and I won't lose it all because of liars!
My fighting spirit is not exhausted yet!!
Be strong with me, we can get through this!
I'm crying as I type this and wishing I could help you!
Maybe just knowing we're here is helping a little bit??
Big hugs through cyber space!
YoH

Big hug YoH, crying or not, like Amanda you're doing your best to support others with your quality posts

[jittery]

hi

Heartbreaking we DO understand, that's why we're on this forum.
YoH I've actually got tears as I read what you say!!!
My precious little family has been destroyed but as individuals we are still standing, ready to fight the next round.

I wish we could have a big national meet then we really could have a massive group hug, but for now virtual ones is all we have.

Stay strong, although I know it's hard

Big hug Amanda. Tears in your eyes or not you're doing a great job supporting others as usual

[jittery]

hi

I didn't mean people on here ... people around us. His brother in law keeps saying why are we worried they have no proof. .. and stop panicking nothing will happen.

It's so frustrating. It's heartbreaking. But you all know that

I had pretty much the same with a friend of mine. He and his wife got into a tit for tat battle over who should have custody of the kids. Got really nasty and she finally played the trump card and accussed him of raping her.

I can remember telling him he had nothing to worry about because it would be obvious to anyone that it was precisely that, just an escalation of a war between them and this was the logical conclusion.

I wish I'd known better. My friends just dismissed the accusation against me, all they said was "well you just wouldn't do something like that, we know you". True, but people who don't know me don't know that and they were the ones making the descision.

I feel for you, support from those close to us is not neccessarily all it might be- they don't realise the way it can affect the situation can have on those affected by it. Stay strong!