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  • Absolute Torture

    Hi,

    I'd like to share my version of an absolute nightmare which is still ongoing, but before I do, I'd like say hi to everyone on here and that I stumbled across this website by chance and what a saviour or at at least a glimmer of hope and support......!

    In a nutshell.......

    I met a girl who I had saw (not intimately) previously very briefly, we got chatting one morn whislt I was working. I chatted to her during a break about going where to go out later that evening etc and we exchanged numbers. She gave me flirty looks and smiles during the remainder of the day and asked to me go to a place with her when I had finished, which I kindly declined. Anyway throughout the day and evening we sent each other flirty texts, where she was asking me to go and meet her, but I was with a mate and did not meet up with her until much later that evening in a kebab shop where she was with 2 friends.

    We spoke for a bit and she decided to come back to where I was staying, we walked down the road holding hands (I expect this to be on CCTV) and talking about niff naff and trivia. It turned out during our conversation that we were both married and I told her I was, anyway we get to where I was staying and I opened the door for her and made our way to my room. I put on the kettle as you do and she sat on the bed, not the chair that was available. I finished making a cuppa and she went to the toilet as she came out of the toilet she brushed past me and we kissed and ended up on the bed where we had Consensual sex after about an hour or so she checked her phone got up and got dressed and left, I thought it was all a bit sudden.
    I was going to text her the nxt morn, but didnt.

    Six days later I received a phone call from a woman claiming to be a Policewoman saying that she had a complaint of me raping a woman!! Jesus Christ, my world just fell apart, I even asked her if this was a wind up??

    I had to report to the station a week later where I went through an interview with 2 female police detectives to get my version of events..................

    Turns out that (in her words) that she only came back to phone a taxi (there was a taxi rank outside kebab shop) and when she was in my room she fell and hit her head off a wall (absolute nonsense) and she passed out on the BED and when she came too I was having sex with her (only a monster could do this) and then she passed out AGAIN.

    I cannot for the life of me understand why she has made such an allegation???

    I was bailed to report back a few weeks later, but was called to say they had to change the date as CPS has not made a decision yet? My date has been changed 3 times now!

    My life has been destroyed by this false allegation and even contemplated the unthinkable, but this is when I stumbled on this site which has helped me a great deal. I am living through HELL, I think I should go to the Docs, but in my line of work very little is kept confidential.

    Please Help...............................

  • #2
    1. Dont speak to the police they will use everything against you
    2. see a dr as you are in shock but this will pass.
    3 tell your wife the truth she will find out anyways
    4. suicide feelings go away don't even think suicide stupid you don't want to go to a worse place.
    5.speak to a lawyer if you can afford it a good one im sure heaps of people will be on to advise you
    6. don't have a one night stand again

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    • #3
      just go to the doctor and ask for anti depressants just say your depressed

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      • #4
        Hi and welcome. I'm sorry you find yourself here.

        As Wunderland has said, you need to get yourself an experienced solicitor, one who has a proven traack record of successfully defending fale allegations of rape. If you post up your county someone here may be able to recommend one.

        I think her motivation for making a false allegation is pretty transparent - she is married and her husband suspected she had been unfaithful. Claiming she was raped removes all responsibility for her actions. Alibi-seeking is one of the most common reasons for making a false allegation.

        Why on earth would she come back to your place to phone a taxi? If she has a mobile phone she could have done that from anywhere, surely your flat isn't the only place that gets a signal?

        It sounds to me that she "reported" pretty much straight away. If this is the case, and she is claiming that she knocked herself unconscious, one would expect her to have some pretty clear indications of a head trauma. Of course, she may have bashed her head the following day, or she may not have bashed it at all. Either way, to knock yourself unconscious on a wall (flat) is quite difficult to do unless you really to for it with some force. It sounds incredibly far fetched.

        Have you told your wife what is happening? From your post it sounds as though you don't live in the same house as her, but not telling her will do you far more harm that good. If this case does get as far as court, you will need her by your side.

        Make sure your sol applies for the CCTV footage of the street you were walking down together. Do you and this girl have any mutual friends who might be able to fill you in on her?

        Do take yourself to the GP. Your doc is bound by the Hippocratic Oath not to reveal any details about your appointment to anyone.

        Hang in there. Others will be along shortly.

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        • #5
          truth cant be hidden

          hope every thing goes yourway she set u up she must have doone it before and have u written down every little detail that u remember if not u must sit down and start writting all the events as they happened and any witness if u remeber things later just add it this will help u a lot and I am sure more experienced member will be with u to help,guide and support soon, just keep strong,
          Best wishes

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          • #6
            Welcome to the forum and thank you for sharing your story with us.
            Absolute Torture pretty much sums it all up really.
            I won't preach to you about the lessons to be learnt from unfaithful one night stands, you've made a mistake and you are paying a heavier price for it than you deserve to.

            So, the question is, where do you go from here?
            Can you clarify whether you had a solicitor present for your interview with the police? You should have been offered one but some people decline as they think (wrongly) it is an indication of guilt to request legal support.

            Basically, what is happening now is the CPS are looking over a disclosure from the police comprising of the 'evidence' they have in relation to the case. The CPS will then decide whether or not there is a realistic prospect of conviction. If they figure that there is a 51% or above chance then they will charge you with the offence and it will likely proceed to trial. If they realise that the evidence is too flimsy and would be unlikely to lead to a conviction then they will take no further action against you.

            As Saffron says, it is fairly transparent that you are the scapegoat for this woman's decision to cheat on her husband. She has obviously realised after the deed was done that she has made a mistake and to get the blame away from her door, she decided to accuse you of rape. You are a stranger to her; far rather you take the flack than her.

            There are some fairly ridiculous concepts in her story and they have already been picked up on by other members. You don't walk hand in hand with someone all the way to their flat to phone a taxi, not when mobiles and taxi ranks are readily available. Was she out by herself that night? if not, why didn't she get a taxi with friends? Surely ONE of them must have had a mobile?

            The head injury is also fairly ridiculous. How is she claiming that she hit her head? Is she saying that she fell? If so, then she is alleging that you picked her up, put her on the bed and proceeded to have sex with her? There would be bruising on her body, more than likely that should corroborate that if it were true. Not to mention a hefty trauma to her head if the force of it being struck against a wall was enough to knock her unconcious.

            What is she then saying happened after the incident. Did she just get up and leave?

            Please remember that you may not have had full disclosure from the police. They would give away as little as possible, particularly if you had no solicitor with you who could wangle some more info.j

            The fact that you are being rebailed shows that they aren't very sure about this case. If they were certain of your guilt you would have been charged sooner. Do not get complacent, I am not for one moment saying that you won't get charged. I am just suggesting that they longer they take, the more difficult the decision evidently is.

            I would certainly reccommend seeing a doctor
            Take Care
            "Be sure your sin will find you out"

            Numbers 32:23

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            • #7
              Thank you for your support

              I live around 150 miles away as I was just visiting with work. I go about 3/4 times a year. I was staying in a B&B which is very Public. I did have a Sol, but only the duty one, but was assured I was in good hands?? I believe she went straight back to work the next working day (4 months ago) and now I believe she's pulled the stress card??

              I know 100% nothing untoward went on and the passing out business is totally unbelieveable!!

              I was strong thru my interview, but whilst being bailed seeing the words 'Rape' on my sheet broke me in half and totally broke down!!!

              I have found out that I'm not the only person she's slept with and that she's a bit of a regular. Although this may be her 1st allegation??

              I am in bits!!!!!

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              • #8
                Unfortunately, unless she's made another allegation in the past, her promiscuity is unlikely to be relevant.

                I'm glad that you had a duty solicitor present, that would have made the police toe the line far more. You need to be now researching a specialist solicitor should this go any further

                You're bound to be in a real state. You really should seek some medical support.
                I would consider opening up to your wife too. I know it won't be pleasant but she will find out if you get charged...
                "Be sure your sin will find you out"

                Numbers 32:23

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                • #9
                  Police

                  They have kept ringing me to ask if I'd been suspended and if I was still doing other activities, so they could add it to the CPS File etc.

                  Does anyone know where this will go?

                  I am thinking the worst.......

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                  • #10
                    Do not speak to the police at all without a solicitor giving you the go ahead. Ideally, you want to give them nothing over the phone and only ever speak to them with a solicitor present in the room

                    They are not on your side I'm afraid.
                    "Be sure your sin will find you out"

                    Numbers 32:23

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                    • #11
                      I can't agree more with Faith.
                      It is strange that she was flirty with you,kept hands in hands(CCTV might save you),that you exchange numbers...
                      Did you keep the texts that she send you?
                      Did the police take your mobile?
                      What I found strange is that she checked her phone and suddenly...
                      Gone with the wind.
                      I wouldn't be surprised if her husband was wondering where she was.
                      Sorry to say this but welcome to the real world.
                      I will try to help you as much as I can,keep strong.
                      She just needed an excuse for cheating on her husband.
                      Non,je ne regrette rien.

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                      • #12
                        Hi, sorry you've found yourself here, but you've been given good advice.
                        I wouldn't speak to the police without a solicitor either, something that would have been unheard of for us a few months ago, but you live and learn and need to protect yourself.

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                        • #13
                          hi just wanted to say welcome to this forum, you will as we all have will find it a life saver.
                          you have not mentioned if you have told your wife what is going on.
                          i am a wife of a falsely accused and i can say if he had not told me the truth from the beginning i would of thought he was hiding dsomething for a reason and it would of took me longer to get over the hurt of being cheated on.
                          i hope it all works out for you but keep coming on and get support.

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                          • #14
                            Phone

                            Originally posted by Boys don't cry View Post
                            I can't agree more with Faith.
                            It is strange that she was flirty with you,kept hands in hands(CCTV might save you),that you exchange numbers...
                            Did you keep the texts that she send you?
                            Did the police take your mobile?
                            What I found strange is that she checked her phone and suddenly...
                            Gone with the wind.
                            I wouldn't be surprised if her husband was wondering where she was.
                            Sorry to say this but welcome to the real world.
                            I will try to help you as much as I can,keep strong.
                            She just needed an excuse for cheating on her husband.
                            When I went for interview they took my phone and had it for around 6 hours and then returned it when they bailed me.

                            I didn't keep the txts, but hopefully the police can retrace them?? She even asked me to send her a pic in late afternoon, which I did (normal facial pic).

                            I will lose everything if I'm charged, especially my family. I know I did wrong by having a one night stand, but I never did what she's saying!!!

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by NOHOPE View Post
                              hi just wanted to say welcome to this forum, you will as we all have will find it a life saver.
                              you have not mentioned if you have told your wife what is going on.
                              i am a wife of a falsely accused and i can say if he had not told me the truth from the beginning i would of thought he was hiding dsomething for a reason and it would of took me longer to get over the hurt of being cheated on.
                              i hope it all works out for you but keep coming on and get support.
                              No!! I can't put them through this, I got into this mess so I will just have to try and cope. She'd be gone if I told her. I know I will have to when I'm charged, but I'll cross that bridge then or the........

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