Wife has falsely accused me of rape

[Don'tbelieveit!]

Browndown

My husband's reply:
Try it in the hope that you will be able to think about something else at least for a part of the time, even if only for a few minutes. He found it diffcult the first few days. I admit, our situation IS different, but then no case is the same. However, he says that sitting at home drives him crazy and working does give him the chance to be preoccupied with something else..

Hope that helps!

[browndown777]

Don'tbelieveit

lots of people have said about going back to work, to take you mind off things. But how do you get the motivation to go and do a job?

when you have difficulty just getting up in the morning......

[Yorkster]

I am so sorry to hear this and I really do know how you feel as soon as I can send you my phone number I will. Try keep strong I know it's hard but those kids need a strong dad it took me time to get my head together and if im honest it's still pretty messed up . But I know when I do see my kids my head will be better than when it all first started . May I also suggest you visit your doctor if your feeling down .i did and it was the best thing I did . I also went for counselling and that really does help .

[browndown777]

Thanks for your kind words Hol......

The next schedualed contact is NEXT monday! but they did say they would try and sort something for later this week but i won't hold my breath.

Does the woman i loved with all my life know what she has done to me?

Does she know what she is putting me through??

I hope she's reading this and has the decensy to tell the truth that I didnt Rape her and that I didnt abuse her, the only thing i'm guilty of is bending over backwards to help her through all her problems over the last 20 years, I was a good father and i tried to be a good husband........

[Don'tbelieveit!]

Browndown
My husband went to work for the 3 days after receiving the info that he the alleged person who had done harm, but then he took a week off (sick note) mainly because I also work from home and we were able to comfort each other and also calm down (not easy cos we are still absolutely fuming about this ridiculous matter!!), He then went back to work and it did take his mind off the issue somewhat.
We have gone through almost all the emotions under the sun - from being horrified, scared, worried, sad, angry, shocked, petrified of what the future may bring and now, we are at the let's-fight-this-till-the-bitter-end stage. I know my husband has done nothing. For one, he can look me straight in the eye and say so, and I do know when my husband lies.
Keep your chin up: there'll be tough days and even tougher days. That's when people like everybody here come in. I dearly hope that you will manage to hold your head up high and fight like we and many others are!

All the best!

[Hol]

I was so looking foward to seeing my children today.........

But it didn't happen!

Their taxi didnt turn up so they couldnt get to the contact center, to say i'm gutted would be an understatement

How much worse can life get??

Oh browndown, so sorry to hear that! How soon can they re scedual? This just gets worse. You must have been on such a high this morning. It will happen, the next time will get sorted out better I hope! Keep your chin up, I know that might sound stupid at this moment in time, really don't know what to say only keep strong for your children and you'll be seeing them soon.
Hol

[browndown777]

I was so looking foward to seeing my children today.........

But it didn't happen!

Their taxi didnt turn up so they couldnt get to the contact center, to say i'm gutted would be an understatement

How much worse can life get??

[Hol]

Browndown

What you are feeling is absolutely normal but trust me: You must go back to work next week.
Your need to keep on normality as much as possible and if you feel low think about your children.
One day you will be proud to tell them that despite lies you did fight and kept on going thanks to them.

Two weeks ago my son told me:"I never give up" and I swear he made me smile.

Take care.

Boys don't cry is absolutely right! You must try and go back to work. My hubby went through this for four years and trust me, if he didn't have a job to go to, it would have been twice as hard. If you dont work, you'll have too much time on your hands and that's not good, you need to take your mind off this for a while and keeping busy is the best option. Hold on in there browndown, you'll make it
Hol

[browndown777]

Thank you everyone for your kind words once again.......

[lonley place]

You have to carry on with your life best you can, don't let your FA'er take everything.
Keep strong and fight ! LP

[Boys don't cry]

Browndown

What you are feeling is absolutely normal but trust me: You must go back to work next week.
Your need to keep on normality as much as possible and if you feel low think about your children.
One day you will be proud to tell them that despite lies you did fight and kept on going thanks to them.

Two weeks ago my son told me:"I never give up" and I swear he made me smile.

Take care.

[browndown777]

Casehardened

Thank for sorting out my post.......

The last couple of days have been really bad, went shopping yesterday but had to come home as I couldnt stand being around people.

I haven't left the house much over the last couple of weeks, I just dont have the motivation to go anyware or do anything.

I'm ment to be going back to work next week but dont know if i can face it........

[browndown777]

Getting Stressed now

Hi everyone

i cant log in using my old user name browndown77 so i have created this one, i dont know what to do?

i have tried resetting it but i cant remember the e-mail address i used, i have contacted the administrator and explained what has happened

I'm getting really stressed that i cant get back on my thread and answer everyone who has posted.

Just hope someone can advise me what to do next?

[Hol]

Welcome to the forum , and so sorry you had to find us .Your case is very similar to mine don't know if you have read it . Word of warning be careful what you talk about to your kids my wife has stopped me seeing my kids and I haven't seen them since August last year . this is since social services got involved they are like sharks once they go in for the kill they don't let go . Not trying to scare you but it's what they are like .
Also make sure you gather as much evidence against your wife and DON'T trust anyone except your sol . Anything you tell the ss gets relayed back to your wife good luck with everything and if ya need a chat pm me and I would gladly talk on the phone with you

No need for revenge.......
Best quote yet. That is actually true. The relief when hubby was found not guilty was one thing, but knowing that all the work they put in to try not to stumble over their lies unfolded right in front of us.
Yes your day will come and god will let you breathe in the fresh air while they crumble right in front of you. (or should I say via video link)
Hol

[Yorkster]

Finally a little bit of good news.........

Children's services have sorted out supervised access to the children!!!!

Starting Monday then twice a week there after, its at a local family's centre so I don't quiet know what to expect. Apparently they will be watching me and taking notes but I don't care I have nothing to hide.

I cant wait, I miss them so so much!

Roll on Monday..........

Welcome to the forum , and so sorry you had to find us .Your case is very similar to mine don't know if you have read it . Word of warning be careful what you talk about to your kids my wife has stopped me seeing my kids and I haven't seen them since August last year . this is since social services got involved they are like sharks once they go in for the kill they don't let go . Not trying to scare you but it's what they are like .
Also make sure you gather as much evidence against your wife and DON'T trust anyone except your sol . Anything you tell the ss gets relayed back to your wife good luck with everything and if ya need a chat pm me and I would gladly talk on the phone with you