Very new to this....

[myhome]

I'm keeping quiet(ish) on here until after Chrimbo, exhausted! Tomorrow is the last day I do any work for anyone else til the New Year!!!!!! That's what I'm saying anyways....... Got some of me own work to be doing so no rest for the wicked. What you got planned 'myhome'?

Hi L1 - glad you can have a more peaceful time and have a well deserved rest.
I'm spending time with my sister and 2 grown sons and my 2 lovely dogs!!! may finish my pond if it ever stops raining!!!!!and rejoicing about going back to work on Jan 8th!!!
Enjoy yours....

[lawlessone2009]

That's one of the things that's so helpful about this site - knowing that what what we feel etc isn't ust us and we're not alone

One of the wonders of the internet eh?

No matter where you are, who you are or what the problem is you will always be able to find help or advice.

This place is obviously pretty focused, subject wise, so the advice is generally pretty spot on and is also generally heart felt.

Most of the info is directly from what people have personally experienced as well and since we're all on a conveyor belt of some kind the info is kept pretty up to date.

I'm keeping quiet(ish) on here until after Chrimbo, exhausted! Tomorrow is the last day I do any work for anyone else til the New Year!!!!!! That's what I'm saying anyways....... Got some of me own work to be doing so no rest for the wicked. What you got planned 'myhome'?

[myhome]

It's not just me then, thank god for that.

That's one of the things that's so helpful about this site - knowing that what what we feel etc isn't ust us and we're not alone

[Dave]

1 year and a half later I still have the same phobia:2 police cars.
A few monts ago, 2 of them were only passing by in front of my workplace on a sunday.
My heart was beating heratically and I just thought "What did she say now?"
Maybe I am a bit paranoid.

It's not just me then, thank god for that.

[myhome]

! And it must be a huge boost knowing that your employers are 100% behind you. Excellent news.

Hi Saffron - thanks - you're right - I couldn't work for and with a more fantastic group of people.

[Saffron]

I'm so pleased that you will be able to get back to work. Being in the house on your own day after day messes with your head! And it must be a huge boost knowing that your employers are 100% behind you.
Excellent news.

[myhome]

Thanks handa and aandf.... the stigma of being suspended being lifted has really helped and the support from everyone on here is unbelievable....thank you all and love and hope to you all too

[So angry and hurt]

So hurt and angry

I think that is great news you can go back to work! Well done you sound brighter,thats good and we all need somebody to believe in us xxx
I'm not sure that the delay in hearing is such a positive, in our experience no one has been in a hurry to speed things up and at times I felt that they could have been working much quicker,but maybe no news is good news! I do hope so xx good luck and keep strong xx

[Angry and frightened]

Hoping and praying for you that this IS a good thing x

[myhome]

A piece of good news is that I am being allowed back to work in January. I still can't work with clients but so strong is the management's belief in me is that they have found other work within the company that I can do....It is such a relief that I am no longer suspended....

Also - it is now a month since I had the interview under caution. The tapes have gone to the other county and I have still heard nothing - no arrest, charge etc. I'm clinging to hope that this is a good thing???????

[myhome]

I find it's very easy to get bogged down with fear, and when I take note of it I realise that no-one is putting that fear onto me, I'm doing it to myself . Does that make sense? It's then possible for me not to do it to myself. Try it.

Thanks - yes it does make sense and I will try it. I have a fantastically supportive GP too.
It is also a godsend that I found this website for the support and help here too - so thank you everyone.....

[Angry and frightened]

Thanks BDC, I know how you feel, but will never trust the police again.
I wonder if you, or someone else in the "know", could possibly help me. My husband has just phoned his solicitor, he was in court, but he spoke to his secretary. She said he has to attend his bail hearing tomorrow for a "short" interview. What does this mean? Does it mean they havent come to a decision yet? After 6 months? Why leave it so long? Or could it mean he is going to be NFA`d? Why can they not tell you anything? Hope somebody has any idea. Thank you

[Boys don't cry]

1 year and a half later I still have the same phobia:2 police cars.
A few monts ago, 2 of them were only passing by in front of my workplace on a sunday.
My heart was beating heratically and I just thought "What did she say now?"
Maybe I am a bit paranoid.

My only advice is that you will have to learn to live with it at least for a while.
It will eventually fade with time.

[Angry and frightened]

No, didnt actually smash it in, just felt like it! They were so loud, they woke up the whole estate and the estate next door! Having said that, we can not use the front door now as my sons key broke off in lock, can not afford locksmith, wonder if hat had anything to do with it? Maybe we can claim expenses off police - lol!

[lawlessone2009]

I can relate to that. After having the 5.30m, smashing the door in, routine from the police, every time I saw a police car, no matter how far from home I was, Was convinced they had come to arrest my husband. And Have never had mental health issues - well as far as !
I know

They smashed your door in?

For an allegation of a sexual nature???