Falsely accused of rape by my wife of 12 weeks

[Faith]

Just Married, I wanted to say that I completely agree with you about the not eating thing. When Mr Saffron was away at Her Maj's Hotel I lost two stone, dropping to about 7st (98lbs) which is far too little for my 5'7" height. However it became like a competition for me - my life was so insane that the only thing I could control was what I ate. At one point I would only allow myself to eat one grape a day, plus a bottle of wine. It was the alocohol that gave me the calories I needed to function.
I would cook proper homemade food for my son but nothing for myself. It was only when I almost fainted at work that I realised I had to eat to stay alive. And that I had to stay alive for my son.
My eating habits are vastly improved now. It's taken 8 years, but I am back at the sensible 9st weight I was previously.

Sorry to hear that you suffered from this eating disorder Saffron. I currently am getting support for something similar as a result of my situation so I can empathise with the strain it can have on your life, and health
*HUGS*

[Rights Fighter]

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I eventually retrieved my mobile phone from the police. During my research, I had found a company called 'Longmereuk.com'. They claim to be able to recover up to 500 deleted texts from the memory of a mobile phone. Two interrogations of the phone, one of the sim card, apparently quite easy and common, and the other, more rigorous, and after which the phone will no longer work, of the phone's internal memory. If I invest in this procedure, to save more evidence for myself, I'll post the results.

You might be better off instructing a forensic expert to interrogate the phone. If anything happened in the future you might need such an expert to give evidence (I hope that would never happen). Many experts are not qualified to give such evidence or write reports for court hearings and you would need one who is. I can help you there. And it might be a lot cheaper too.

[just married]

You might be better off instructing a forensic expert to interrogate the phone. If anything happened in the future you might need such an expert to give evidence (I hope that would never happen). Many experts are not qualified to give such evidence or write reports for court hearings and you would need one who is. I can help you there. And it might be a lot cheaper too.

Hi RF, yes please.

[just married]

Saffron, RF, Faith, and the advocate, thank you for your comments.
The forum hasn't sent me automatic emails lately, so I was unaware of these posts until now.

Saffron, sorry to hear.. wow, only one grape a day.... that's so sad... I'm so glad you're better....good health is something not to be taken for granted... I'm eating just vegetable salads...sometimes toast for breakfast...getting slimmer gives me something positive to focus on with attainable goals. I can easily lose another stone and be within NHS guidelines.

Faith, thanks as always for being here, likewise RF, and the advocate, Very interesting, thank you... hope you don't mind I sent a PM.

back later

[just married]

Just married


It is a sad experience for you but you can start again and I am sure that all the women are not as ... as the one we unfortunately met.

Even now I feel sick and always wondering "Why?".I know the answer but I can't believe that some people are so evil.

Take care.

With my very limited experience, I afraid I can't be of much use to other forum members, though my solidarity is now always going to be with those falsely accused. Reading of other victims suffering makes me just too sad to function. I'm sorry.

BDC, I love the video.. I've re-posted it elsewhere. Also, I'm finally getting my head round the idea of pure evil. A lesson to be learned, and to be wary of in the future. Your gentle and modest words are a great comfort and help to others. Thank you.

On a completely different note. I shall be trying, when I feel able, to resolve the continuing saga of the people I found on the internet, then later decided against instructing, a London based firm of 'legal specialists' in false accusations, who took £2,500 of my money, and don't want to give it back despite doing no work for me whatsoever.

very best wishes to all.

[Rights Fighter]

With my very limited experience, I afraid I can't be of much use to other forum members, though my solidarity is now always going to be with those falsely accused. Reading of other victims suffering makes me just too sad to function. I'm sorry.

BDC, I love the video.. I've re-posted it elsewhere. Also, I'm finally getting my head round the idea of pure evil. A lesson to be learned, and to be wary of in the future. Your gentle and modest words are a great comfort and help to others. Thank you.

On a completely different note. I shall be trying, when I feel able, to resolve the continuing saga of the people I found on the internet, then later decided against instructing, a London based firm of 'legal specialists' in false accusations, who took £2,500 of my money, and don't want to give it back despite doing no work for me whatsoever.

very best wishes to all.

I do hope you take steps to get it all back. If they refuse, go to your local small claims court, outlining that they never actually did anything, you never received any itemised invoices and if you had no receipt, add that in to the application. First write and tell them that that is your intention after their refusal to give you a compete refund, giving them 14 days to have a rethink.

[just married]

that .... lot

I do hope you take steps to get it all back..... -- -- -- .... after their refusal to give you a compete refund, giving them 14 days to have a rethink.

Hi, RF. I have an almost comically tenacious memory of financial wrongdoings, virtually from earliest childhood. I won't be letting this go, but I also won't give people who make their 'living' this way any more than the appropriate disdain they deserve. I'm lucky that I don't strictly need to just yet.

I've done the (four) requests for itemized invoices over a 14 day period, that was 2 weeks ago, but I've baulked at the prospect of the Official Letter of Complaint... I'm afraid any way I word it, it might sound like a deranged rant, so I've tried to not even think of words..... I've spoken to the ombudsman, and have a reference, and he's mailed them too. However, as he rightly says, it me be a contractural dispute for which I need to apply to the small claims court.

ps, you and I have done flowers, each, thank you, so here's a big smile.

[Rights Fighter]

Write down what happened factually in a bullet pointed document. No emotion in it -just chronological facts from when you were first contacted, who by, your next point of contact, what was said and who by....when you paid and how you paid....etc etc....plus present copies of all correspondence between all parties. If done by phone list the calls who to and from and date and timed if at all possible.

[just married]

yus, RF, will do.... my least favourite thing to do.. grumble grumble....

thanks.. ooh, ps, no phonecalls to worry about, just email and letter.... and text..

still, grumble grumble..

[Rights Fighter]

Listen 'ere Mista! Two and a half grand is a lot of money - well it is to me!

If you don't want it I could use it to go towards attending W&C's trial soon (and to help pay for other attendees expenses) and also another trial in September, not to mention paying my law student's travel expenses when she comes to see me twice a week....she's a great help .......travel to appeals.....visits to prisons.....the list is never ending......

[just married]

I need help from so many specialists in so many specialities



very best with everything, you heroes....

back soon....

ps, what I mean is, I'm sometimes having The Most Amazing days, quite unexpectedly, maybe coincidentally, and I'm sort of, as somebody said, seizing each moment and enjoying to the full, and I'm not going to let bad vibes spoil it if I can help it... if you know what I mean.. karma and stuff... I'm sure saffron would know about the weight loss thing too, makes you feel kinda speedy...

nice page over at that 'has an FA been of benefit to your life?' thread... all the nice ppl on one page, from what I can figure... (and me)



PPS. Damn.. sounds selfish... I want to help ... maybe towards the bigger picture ....

[Boys don't cry]

CARPE DIEM

[just married]

BDC, Je ne regret rien either.

Throughout my (quite long) life, the question sometimes crops up, 'If you could live your life over again, is there anything that you would change?'

In bad times, obviously, it's not really a question you want to answer, but in times that aren't too bad, the resounding answer has to be.... Nope, wouldn't change one single thing.

[RFLH]

me neither - there's been some flippin' awful bits, but its made me the person I am now and for the first time ever, I like me. Of course I wish a lot of things hadn't happened, but that's the way of life - you can't go back. Unless you're Doctor Who ......

[just married]

RFLH, I like me at the moment. I think I always have... it's hard to remember properly right now with all the ups and downs, but I think I've always liked me. It's important. Moral compass sort of stuff. There are huge swathes of life where I haven't liked my life so much.... felt everything so unfair, etc, but that doesn't stop one from being nice. At least to oneself. Whether others agree, whether one is popular or not, dunno... but it's good to like oneself.
Two good words... prejudice and hypocrisy. However much one learns, they're still always there. From childhood and upbringing I guess. And basic human instinct.