accused of rape

[sickasaparrot]

Two very dark days!

Just had a couple of horrible days.

The kind of days where you see the negatives but not any of the positives or contradictions. I've been shaking in fear and spent a lot of time crying (but not in front of my kids).
I've seen a jury convict me - and I haven't even been charged!

Bail date is 5th December and I seriously don't know if I can carry on like this.

My wife is picking up the pieces and holding the family together - she has been amazing!

Have taken advice and have booked a doctors appointment for early next week.

Still can't believe this has happened!

So scared!

[NOHOPE]

think im the same as you apart from my hubby has been charged. some days im a mess others not to bad but can never ever get it out of my mind and just reading the latest story of someone being found guilty im so so scared for my hubby i think im going to loose him for a few yrs cos some stupid cow makes things up.

[blowngasket]

iam having good days and bad the only thing i can say is it does get a little easier has time goes on iam waiting for my trial date which i beleive will now be some time early next year .when i first came on the forum i was convinced i was going to go down for years but with the support on hear i have learnt to take it one day at a time.
my next court date is 11th nov so from now until then i have shut it out the best i can becuase nothing is going to change give all the info to your sol and then try to live as normal as you can i should be found not guilty has iam 110% innnocent of any wrong doing but its going to be in the hands of the jury i know i wll be nervous near the the trial and during it but why worry now it wont change anything i hope others can confirm the longer into the case it does get a little easier

[Freespirit]

hi there

sorry to here about what you are going through, my husbands case is in march next year. for the most part we have tried to block it all out but of course this doesnt work all the time. Sometimes I wonder how we will get through but then another week passes and we have! work, family and friends have all been great - take any support offered and always keep loved ones close.

[kanday]

I agree totally, take all the support you can and yes try not to think about it but do as much with your loved ones and family just in case please, my husband was found guilty on Fri and towards the trail date we were bickering about silly stuff, was al down to us being scared and stressed but now i and i know he will too regret it so so much, i haven't spoke to him since before court Fri morn, haven't kissed him since then or held him, i wish we had made the most of time together instead of burying our heads and thinking it wouldn't come to this, i hope and pray it doesn't come to this for any of you but please be prepared just incase x

[RFLH]

that's part of the advice we give - make time to do the things you enjoy, go out for walks - make nice memories.

[kanday]

It's very good advice, it is hard sometimes when it's true you take things out on those closest to you, in back of my mind i really thought that it wouldn't come to this that her lies couldn't be belived, how naive was i!! i'm just glad i have his belly button fuff i had a thing about keeping it, everyone thought i was weird and gross, can't blame then but glad i did now ha ha if you don't laugh you cry!! sorry totally off subject there.

[RFLH]

its good to go off subject once in a while!

[kanday]

thank you

[sickasaparrot]

Thank You!

Thank you all for you messages - we are all in this together and I know we all take comfort from each message that gets posted.

After two terrible days, things have got much better and I'm feeling much more positive once again. I have cancelled my Doctors appointment for tomorrow as I feel like I can carry on without help (drugs).

Will keep an open mind but hopefully I have reached the lowest point and come through. Boy, I never want to go THERE again!!!!

I know there will still be times when Ionce again doubt the system - as everyone says this truly is a rollercoaster ride!

Thank you all again and good luck!

[Supernova]

Hi,

Found this forum whilst looking for information for a friend who is going through a similar story to yourself - actually quite surprising how many story's there are!

Just wanted to say that I hope your still feeling positive and, like I keep reminding my friend, we must try and not doubt the system and believe this will be sorted soon with the right outcome!

[Saffron]

Thanks Supernova and welcome

[sickasaparrot]

Thanks for the note, Supernova,

Actually I've had a bit of another blip today, not feeling so positive - and to top it all off I think I'm coming down with a dose of tonsilitis!!

I also went swimming to try and forget things and had a bit of a funny turn - cold sweats, sickness, feeling faint!

So maybe a trip to the doctors is on the cards after all!

Now, do I pour my heart out and tell him everything? Including the allegation, tears, loss of appetite, sleepless nights, fear, trauma, etc etc etc?

I don't know!

Anyone got any advice?

[RFLH]

Tell all - they can't help properly unless you do.

[sickasaparrot]

Thanks RFLH,

I have taken your advice and just got back from the doctors.

The ups and downs are killing me (and so are my tonsils!)

As everyone says, it's the waiting and the not knowing which drives you insane!!