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I was at a party. Everyone had gone home with the exception of some of my best friends. We all started to crash out. The hostess and her man went to bed, I had one couch, and my boyfriend had the other. A mutual friend (whom we've known and trusted for over 5 years) lay on the floor between us.
I was woken in quite a bit of discomfort and distress, and I realised that this mutual friend was touching me quite roughly in places that he shouldn't. I was too surprised and confused to tell him to stop, so I pretended that I was still asleep in the hope that he's lose interest and leave me alone (I don't know what I was thinking at the time, it seems such a dumb thing to think). So he stops, and I think, ok, thats it over, don't know what that was all about, etc.
But then he does it again. It lasts for about 5 minutes, and my reasoning is this time that if I make a noise, I'm in trouble - if this guy is able to help himself with my boyfriend asleep on the next couch, then he's capable of anything. If I shout out, and no one wakes up - this was after a party, remember - then god knows what he would do...
So I keep schtuum again, and again he eventually stops. But only to get into a better position, and then he starts to fumble with my trousers...at theis point, I think I got brave, because I pushed his hand away. My boyfriend wakes up (as I call out when I get rid of his hand), and sees whats been happening. He gets me out of the house and somewhere safe as soon as.
But I feel I need to know, was this assault or something? I know I didn't want it, but I never said no. He just began to help himself when I was asleep.
It was quite recent, and he was very rough. I still have bruises on my chest and groin area.
I feel that giving this a name will help me become less confused about this, and then I can put it behind me once and for all.
Can anyone help, please?
I was woken in quite a bit of discomfort and distress, and I realised that this mutual friend was touching me quite roughly in places that he shouldn't. I was too surprised and confused to tell him to stop, so I pretended that I was still asleep in the hope that he's lose interest and leave me alone (I don't know what I was thinking at the time, it seems such a dumb thing to think). So he stops, and I think, ok, thats it over, don't know what that was all about, etc.
But then he does it again. It lasts for about 5 minutes, and my reasoning is this time that if I make a noise, I'm in trouble - if this guy is able to help himself with my boyfriend asleep on the next couch, then he's capable of anything. If I shout out, and no one wakes up - this was after a party, remember - then god knows what he would do...
So I keep schtuum again, and again he eventually stops. But only to get into a better position, and then he starts to fumble with my trousers...at theis point, I think I got brave, because I pushed his hand away. My boyfriend wakes up (as I call out when I get rid of his hand), and sees whats been happening. He gets me out of the house and somewhere safe as soon as.
But I feel I need to know, was this assault or something? I know I didn't want it, but I never said no. He just began to help himself when I was asleep.
It was quite recent, and he was very rough. I still have bruises on my chest and groin area.
I feel that giving this a name will help me become less confused about this, and then I can put it behind me once and for all.
Can anyone help, please?
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