falsely accused of sexual assault

[kljlrmi]

im new here but worried sick, and in need of a bit of advice/counselling

I was arrested on sunday morning for sexual assault on a girl who attended my party, she claims that I took her into a room and played with her vagina/breasts and mouth with my hands, this girl was paraletic drunk and collapsed twice once whilst trying to get her in a taxi, there was 5 people present at the alleged time myself, my partner, a friend, her and her friend eventually her friend with her decided she was too drunk to go in the taxi and opted to stay at our mine and my partners house with her, I then carried her up two sets of flights in the firemans lift position and me and my partner put her to bed, I had to pull her pants back up and sort her extremely low cut top out as there was quite a lot on show and thought it was the right thing to do. we then went back downstairs to the others, at one point I went up for a wee and she had fallen out the bed I chucked her legs back on the bed and collapsed the travel cot, her friend came up as I was doing this, I then went for a wee and left him with her, they both left our house and had friends pick them up an hour or so later at about 0130am and I was arrested at 730am

my partner and I gave statements to the police at the same time and we wasn't allowed contact till we had as I was in the cells

the other girl who was present was told she had to give a statement on Tuesday but only received a phonecall today (Friday) to take a phone statement not an official statement, they then said they are going to piece it together and if they need an official statement will contact her again.

why are they not getting official statements and why is it taking so long for them to take them, im in bits not knowing what is going to happen, I have 5 children that depend on me one of which is 3 weeks old and this is turning my life upside down!

can anybody give advice?

much appreciated

[YearsOfHell]

Hi, welcome to the forum.
It seems that the police have different ways of dealing with these matters.
He says/She says situations are especially hard.
At one point it was only you and her alone so I assume that's when she thinks this has happened.
There's no way of knowing whether this will be taken further or not.
Please try not to second guess.
You'll drive yourself nuts.
All I can say is the initial shock and fear passes but it takes a while.
Trust your innocence.
Try and keep a "normal" routine and I can assure you that you will get through it.
All you can do it wait.
It's a silent torture but keep strong.
Just a heads up - Do Not have any more conversations with the police without a solicitor!! Ever!!
If anything else happens at you need any further help, let us know!
In the meantime hope for the best - prepare for the worst.
What area are you in just in case you need a solicitor?
YoH

[Franticwithworry]

Oh dear! No good deed goes unpunished, as they say.

Please try not to worry about how long this all takes, because it seems that the less there is for the police to go on, the longer it will take. The police are not your friends and they will not seek statements from people who support you. So, it will likely take quite a lot of time and the police will not be in a hurry. Don't talk to them again without a solicitor present, look in the forums thread for a specialist in case you need one, and though you've already given the police a statement, I'd recommend that you write everything down that you can think of about the occasion while it's still relatively fresh in your mind, just in case you need to go over it all with a solicitor.

You don't need a solicitor unless and until you are charged and it's as well to be prepared, though I have everything crossed for you that this will come to nothing.

In the meantime, congratulations on your family and the new arrival! S/he is probably keeping you entertained and sleepless, as it should be. I hope that keeps your mind off this stuff a bit.

Please come back as frequently as you need to and let us know how things are going for you.