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[Franticwithworry]

That's great news!! I'm so pleased for you.

[Rights Fighter]

Thank goodness for that. So many are forced to leave home.......

[farmer42]

Just a quick update for everyone, the social services were called as I have a 7 month old son, I felt like so sick thinking I would be forced to leave the family home and not see my son much, but after a 3 week investigation and talking to me and my partner they are taking no further action and will not be involved in my life.
Even nicer feeling the social worker said we seemed like a lovely couple we were very honest our stories matched when they spoke to us separately and then she wished me all the best in court next year. That felt really nice to hear that they could see I am not the monster she is claiming me to be and that I can spend Christmas with my family.

Some good in all this bad…!!

[Ploppy]

Hang in there. This process takes us to some very dark places but, if we hold on to our loved ones and our innocence, we can get through them.

Peace & Strength to you.

[farmer42]

Thank you for the replies means a lot sad but nice to know others are going through the same trauma. social services spoke to my partner on the phone and said if she doesn't hear from them then no further action will be taken other wise if he needs more information he will contact her.

So waiting game now like everything included with a false allegation...

[Franticwithworry]

Rant and vent as much as you want. That's partly what we're here for. I'm so sorry that you felt so despairing that you tried to hurt yourself, but glad that you're still here.

Your rlashionship with your partner and son is clearly strong. Hang in there some more. There IS light at the end of the tunnel, even if you can't see it yet.

[hello88]

This life really is a downward spiralling roller coaster, since my last post I took an overdose which I know now was so selfish I just thought my partner and son could move on with out me I hate seeing my partner cry it hurts more than the allegation.
Instead of getting help at the hospital I was let out and social services were called and we are now under there watch un-sure of what they plan on doing if they will split us up or not. The trial is 8 weeks away and I just feel so sure that evil horrible women will be believed. The allegation is hard but knowing you have done nothing at all wrong and are being put through this is just pain staking. Sorry to rant just nice to vent.

well glad you're still with us!! I know as much as myself and others will say that your partner and child wont be better of without you, i know that when you're in such a dark place its very hard to beleive but its true. For me knowign that my husband was still alive and there was a chance that he could come home someday (even though i never knew when that day might be) it meant so much, but if he had taken his life then that last bit of hope would of completly gone. They're fighting for you so you also need to fight for them



Feel absoloutly free to rant... i've done it a 'few' times If social services were going to split you up i'm pretty sure that they would of done so by now so try not worry..

keep strong xxx

[Mr B]

Vent away. We are here.

Mr B

[farmer42]

This life really is a downward spiralling roller coaster, since my last post I took an overdose which I know now was so selfish I just thought my partner and son could move on with out me I hate seeing my partner cry it hurts more than the allegation.
Instead of getting help at the hospital I was let out and social services were called and we are now under there watch un-sure of what they plan on doing if they will split us up or not. The trial is 8 weeks away and I just feel so sure that evil horrible women will be believed. The allegation is hard but knowing you have done nothing at all wrong and are being put through this is just pain staking. Sorry to rant just nice to vent.

[farmer42]

Thank you I will have a look through

[Casehardened]

There are some hints on how to conduct oneself at trial in the useful information section of the forum i.e.:

http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...xpect-at-Trial

[farmer42]

Thank you again so much for the replies it helps so much knowing you are all here. It is my beautiful sons first Christmas this year so I want to try and enjoy it for his sake just in case it is my last with him.
So much going through my head feel like I need to plan everything from my hair to my shoes just in case the jury don’t like the look of me, not really a public speaker so do I practice talking what will happen? My accuser has done all this before in a previous trial when she accused her husband only 2 years ago (he was acquitted) so she knows what to do and expect plus she then gets more support. Thanks again guys

[Rights Fighter]

My thoughts exactly young man........

[Casehardened]

I've seen this happen though. When Crown complains the jury has already heard it...... they cannot unhear it.....

Lol, the solicitor has to play by the rules, as one-sided as they are; however there is nothing to stop the defendant briefing his barrister during the hearing with something that he *has only just remembered* (presumably due to something the FA mentioned in their testimony!)

[Rights Fighter]

Thank you all for the replies just getting closer to the trial feel it’s me fighting alone. My solicitor said they aren’t allowed to ambush so have to produce everything when in fact they have pretty much just given her all we have. It is now the 3rd statement she has done all so different and yet I still bet the prosecution will word it all well enough to convince the jury it is normal. Just want my life back

I've seen this happen though. When Crown complains the jury has already heard it...... they cannot unhear it.....