Friend accused but not arrested - need help

[Mouse3]

Hi all,

I had written a very long post asking for help ad outlining the situation a friend of mine is facing but it disappeared

Anyway, the short version is this: a friend of mine recently discovered his wife has been cheating on him whilst he's deployed. Having been sent home to sort it out by his boss, one thing led to another. She is now accusing him of rape - but will not go to the police about it. he HAS been to the police and given a statement and they basically told him he had nothing to worry about. She is telling everyone that he is a rapist, but feels he has no right of reply which is compounded by the fact that this is all looked upon very badly by his employers and will be held against him career-wise if its not resolved.

Any advice on how he can proceed? Am happy to give further details on the specifics of the situation if that would help.

Cheers,

M

[myhome]

Hi and welcome to the forum - but sorry for your friend that you have had to find us....you will get lots of help and advice on here and someone will be along shortly who is able to answer your question.... I can't do the legal stuff but it occurs to me that if she hasn't been to the police and your friend hasn't been arrested or charged, then harassment, slander, or defamation of character may be the way forward - but happy to be corrected on that....and a good divorce lawyer too....
Good luck.....MH

[Mouse3]

Thanks for your reply, much appreciated It seems there was a 'mediated session' with him, the wife and the military version of Relate today and the rape 'allegation' came up again, to which he handed her a phone and told her to ring the police and make it formal or quit it. She didn't ring them. She's also said she doesn't want a divorce. Its a mess and its screwing with his head

[myhome]

I agree - what a mess. However, just doesn't have to want a divorce - if her husband does, then she has no choice - it just takes longer....
It is good he has a witness to him offering her the opportunity to make the allegation and she refused.....