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Life is amazing. It's so exciting because you never know whats coming round the corner. One day I was wishing something exciting would happen in my life, the next day I'm arrested under suspicion of raping my ex girl friend 3 times. You would never expect it to happen to someone you know, let alone to yourself!
It's all pretty complicated, but here's a brief summary of my case...
I'm a 19 year old university student and was going out with her for over 10 months. She always talked about wanting to get engaged but I always told her to not get too carried away in a relationship because you have to wait until you are 100% certain and with her only being 17, we were way too young! I always planned on getting married at about 26 because then I would be nicely settled in a career and could make the most of having my own family. She was always a bit too closed minded and extreme, so I thought we had a lot to overcome before even considering engagement! Anyway, I won't go too into the background of our relationship, but basically it was as unpredictable as I always predicted because one day we both agreed we were at our all time peak, and a few days later it was over.
After we broke up she still said to me how she still wanted to get back together one day and do everything we planned, but now was not the right time. I suspected it was because there was now someone else she was with, but she promised to me that there wasn't. Twice she came round to my house, and we ended up doing stuff. Both times we agreed we shouldn't really be doing couple stuff anymore because we wern't a couple anymore! She was actually the one who initiated all the moves and I went along with it because I wasn't exactly saving myself for anyone. I did lose a bit of respect for her though when she'd say comments like "it's hard to resist after having sex on tap for so long". Sex mad girls is such a turn off, but she was a good girl in her heart. My heart kinda still wanted to get back with her, but my head knew it would never work because of her closedmind.
After I contacted one of her college friends to ask what their perspective on the relationship was, she got mad because I didnt ask her permission. It ended with me telling her friend to "tell her to not bother coming round just for sex anymore". A bit harsh of me, but in the heat of the moment in a conversation by text message, it just comes out. She was pretty mad at me for that, and resulted in her never talking to me ever again. Next thing I knew was that I was arrested at 6:00am by 6 policemen under suspision of rape 3 times, room raied and my laptop, fone etc taken, interrigated on tape, in a cell for about 12 hours, and then let out on bail with a hearing this time next month! Never ever been on that side of the law before, so was a memorable experience. The police really do look at you as if you are the most insane person in the world.
The first allegation is when we were actually together and she visited me for a week and saw eachother everyday. We both agreed it was the absolute peak of our relationship. We had sex everyday (thats not the reason it was good, but just a something to keep note of)! Saturday was ok, sunday was good, Monday was great, Tuesday was amazing, Wednesday "I raped her", Thursday was amazing, friday was the best ever, saturday was great! I don't know about you, but if I was raped I wouldn't come back for more, and I still don't know why the day afterwards wernt "rape" either!?
Between the first allegation and the other two I have emails of her saying how much she loves me, how she wants to stay together forever, and how she's thankful to everything I ever done for her. Now, that would strike me as a bit weird if i had recently raped her. I would not want to stay with someone forever, let alone thank them for it if I had just been raped. Well, not unless I enjoy being raped and had a rape fetish.
The 2nd and 3rd allegations were the two times we met up after breaking up. Both times she initiated it, and both times afterwards we all had a good laugh cooking together with my 6 house mates. They all thought we were gettin back together because we seemed so happy. But oh yeah, obviously she was just faking it because she had actually just came back for more rape-age! I forgot about her rape fetish! Some kinda rape fetish is one of the only explainations I can come up with to why she kept coming back for more, and continued to be so happy about it.
Or on the other hand, I came up with another theory. We ended. She got with someone else. Found the need to come back and see me and do stuff. I dropped her in it by telling her friend what she was up to (cheating on someone), and this is her revenge. A bit harsh of her, but to be honest I can also see how the situation of being as extreme as she was could have arisen: Her boy friend found out, and she went "i didnt mean to do it." One thing leads to another, her mum reports it to the police as rape! I got no bad feelings towards her. Everyone I know hates her, but I just feel sorry that she wants to live her life the way she does. To be honest I think I care for her now that I ever did before. There's no point in hating her because that will get me no where. Hate leads to the darkside afterall.
Everyone I know is obviously in shock, cant believe it and find it scary how I'm on a thin line to being locked up for life.... but at the same time we all find it pretty hillarious. It's the most ridiculous story ever, and I've enjoyed telling it to everyone I know. "The day I got arrested for rape" just sounds unreal. No one would have guessed. I know that I havnt done it, so why feel so traumatised by it? It's true that when I read her statement that I feel like I'm going to be sick, but at the same time it makes me laugh that she's just not thought it through and hates me that much to want to end my life.
I've actually got more positives than negatives to take out of this experience. I deffinitely would have rather this all happened than not. It's made me a much stronger person. Its brought me closer to all my friends and family. It's made me appreciate everything much more. It's given me inspiration to be much more focused in my career. It's given me a story for my grand children, and so much more.
It is just a bit annoying that I'm paying for my phone contract but cant use it, and with so much university work not being able to use my laptop, but surely I can claim a tiny bit of compensation on that? And yeh, maybe I don't want a relationship for a long while now and will be much more careful, but I believe the right girl will come at the right time! Bad things will always happen in life, and I believe you have two options. 1) see it as the worst thing ever and let it bring you down. or 2) Embrace it and be happy. Which would you choose? Obviously we would all want option 2, but its not always easy to naturally feel it. I was just hoping that a 19 year old nobody could give the rest of you some hope and inspiration. Life isn't all that bad. Everything always ends ok, because if things arnt ok, its not the end [img]style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif[/img]
Sorry about that waffle, I could talk forever about this so... Bring on the 25th January! Should be a good experience.
Any advice or comments please?
It's all pretty complicated, but here's a brief summary of my case...
I'm a 19 year old university student and was going out with her for over 10 months. She always talked about wanting to get engaged but I always told her to not get too carried away in a relationship because you have to wait until you are 100% certain and with her only being 17, we were way too young! I always planned on getting married at about 26 because then I would be nicely settled in a career and could make the most of having my own family. She was always a bit too closed minded and extreme, so I thought we had a lot to overcome before even considering engagement! Anyway, I won't go too into the background of our relationship, but basically it was as unpredictable as I always predicted because one day we both agreed we were at our all time peak, and a few days later it was over.
After we broke up she still said to me how she still wanted to get back together one day and do everything we planned, but now was not the right time. I suspected it was because there was now someone else she was with, but she promised to me that there wasn't. Twice she came round to my house, and we ended up doing stuff. Both times we agreed we shouldn't really be doing couple stuff anymore because we wern't a couple anymore! She was actually the one who initiated all the moves and I went along with it because I wasn't exactly saving myself for anyone. I did lose a bit of respect for her though when she'd say comments like "it's hard to resist after having sex on tap for so long". Sex mad girls is such a turn off, but she was a good girl in her heart. My heart kinda still wanted to get back with her, but my head knew it would never work because of her closedmind.
After I contacted one of her college friends to ask what their perspective on the relationship was, she got mad because I didnt ask her permission. It ended with me telling her friend to "tell her to not bother coming round just for sex anymore". A bit harsh of me, but in the heat of the moment in a conversation by text message, it just comes out. She was pretty mad at me for that, and resulted in her never talking to me ever again. Next thing I knew was that I was arrested at 6:00am by 6 policemen under suspision of rape 3 times, room raied and my laptop, fone etc taken, interrigated on tape, in a cell for about 12 hours, and then let out on bail with a hearing this time next month! Never ever been on that side of the law before, so was a memorable experience. The police really do look at you as if you are the most insane person in the world.
The first allegation is when we were actually together and she visited me for a week and saw eachother everyday. We both agreed it was the absolute peak of our relationship. We had sex everyday (thats not the reason it was good, but just a something to keep note of)! Saturday was ok, sunday was good, Monday was great, Tuesday was amazing, Wednesday "I raped her", Thursday was amazing, friday was the best ever, saturday was great! I don't know about you, but if I was raped I wouldn't come back for more, and I still don't know why the day afterwards wernt "rape" either!?
Between the first allegation and the other two I have emails of her saying how much she loves me, how she wants to stay together forever, and how she's thankful to everything I ever done for her. Now, that would strike me as a bit weird if i had recently raped her. I would not want to stay with someone forever, let alone thank them for it if I had just been raped. Well, not unless I enjoy being raped and had a rape fetish.
The 2nd and 3rd allegations were the two times we met up after breaking up. Both times she initiated it, and both times afterwards we all had a good laugh cooking together with my 6 house mates. They all thought we were gettin back together because we seemed so happy. But oh yeah, obviously she was just faking it because she had actually just came back for more rape-age! I forgot about her rape fetish! Some kinda rape fetish is one of the only explainations I can come up with to why she kept coming back for more, and continued to be so happy about it.
Or on the other hand, I came up with another theory. We ended. She got with someone else. Found the need to come back and see me and do stuff. I dropped her in it by telling her friend what she was up to (cheating on someone), and this is her revenge. A bit harsh of her, but to be honest I can also see how the situation of being as extreme as she was could have arisen: Her boy friend found out, and she went "i didnt mean to do it." One thing leads to another, her mum reports it to the police as rape! I got no bad feelings towards her. Everyone I know hates her, but I just feel sorry that she wants to live her life the way she does. To be honest I think I care for her now that I ever did before. There's no point in hating her because that will get me no where. Hate leads to the darkside afterall.
Everyone I know is obviously in shock, cant believe it and find it scary how I'm on a thin line to being locked up for life.... but at the same time we all find it pretty hillarious. It's the most ridiculous story ever, and I've enjoyed telling it to everyone I know. "The day I got arrested for rape" just sounds unreal. No one would have guessed. I know that I havnt done it, so why feel so traumatised by it? It's true that when I read her statement that I feel like I'm going to be sick, but at the same time it makes me laugh that she's just not thought it through and hates me that much to want to end my life.
I've actually got more positives than negatives to take out of this experience. I deffinitely would have rather this all happened than not. It's made me a much stronger person. Its brought me closer to all my friends and family. It's made me appreciate everything much more. It's given me inspiration to be much more focused in my career. It's given me a story for my grand children, and so much more.
It is just a bit annoying that I'm paying for my phone contract but cant use it, and with so much university work not being able to use my laptop, but surely I can claim a tiny bit of compensation on that? And yeh, maybe I don't want a relationship for a long while now and will be much more careful, but I believe the right girl will come at the right time! Bad things will always happen in life, and I believe you have two options. 1) see it as the worst thing ever and let it bring you down. or 2) Embrace it and be happy. Which would you choose? Obviously we would all want option 2, but its not always easy to naturally feel it. I was just hoping that a 19 year old nobody could give the rest of you some hope and inspiration. Life isn't all that bad. Everything always ends ok, because if things arnt ok, its not the end [img]style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.gif[/img]
Sorry about that waffle, I could talk forever about this so... Bring on the 25th January! Should be a good experience.
Any advice or comments please?
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