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First off, I'd like to say I'm very happy that I was able to find a forum for false rape accusations, it really feels great to be able to vent and get some perspective. Also, this is occurring in Scotland, as I'm sure that changes some of the applicable laws. Apologies for the long post!
A few days ago, my girlfriend and I received a visit from a couple of detectives who asked me to come to the station with them regarding a charge that was filed against me. Upon arriving at the station, I was informed that my younger sister (we're both in early to mid 20s) has filed a complaint stating that a year ago, I fondled and fingered her in her sleep at which point she woke up and stopped me. (Of course this accusation is not true).
Now that I've read the "You've been falsely accused, now what?" sticky at the top I know I should have requested a solicitor at the interview with me, but instead I went with the "I have nothing to hide as I did nothing wrong, no solicitor needed" approach.
What followed was an hour long interview where I had to outline the relationship my sister and I had - both before she moved out with her boyfriend 7 months ago, and the years of her living with me while she worked on her degree and I supported her financially. We were always on extremely good terms, both me and my girlfriend + her and her boyfriend went on numerous double dates, we invited each other over all the time, I helped her out financially on numerous occasions after she moved out. Basically, we had an extremely good brother/sister relationship this past year - a year after which I supposedly sexually assaulted her in her sleep. Naturally, I maintained my innocence during all this.
We also went into some detail about my sister - on the downside, she's had numerous emotionally abusive relationships, she's suffered from bullemia(sp?) and depression, unable to hold down a job for more than a month, she's worked as a stripper and on at least one occasion (that I'm aware of) accepted payment for sex. On her upside, she's been in therapy + taking antidepressants, and she's a stellar academic - top of her class at a respected university, various internships during summer time, active in feminist groups, etc. As for character references, the detectives mentioned that they spoke to various people and both my sister and I received nothing but praise.
After this hour-long interview, I was put into a cell for roughly two hours. Afterwards, I was called in for a part-two of the interview, which also lasted about an hour.
During the second interview, one of the detectives was a bit more aggressive with the questioning (I figured it was just good cop / bad cop, so I kept my cool and answered everything calmly, honestly, and as clearly as I could). I was asked why would my sister bring up her supposed sexual assault with her counselor if it never happened. They also asked me if I had any birthmarks in my lower regions. I do have a birthmark in my pelvic region, which my sister would know about from us getting bathed together as children (I actually remember her teasing me about it when we were very young, but apparently this was brought forward as a bit of evidence for my accusation) which is what I told the detectives.
At this point, the interview was coming to an end. The detectives put me back in the cell for about 5 minutes saying that they need to call their superior to see if there's anything else they need to ask me. 5 minutes later I was let out of my cell and let free. On a side note, I'm not from the UK originally, but I do intend to get my citizenship. During the interview I mentioned to the detectives that my sister might just be doing this as having a record will ruin my chances of citizenship. As I was being walked out the door, the interviewing detective mentioned that I shouldn't worry about my citizenship if the case gets NFA'd. (Which sounded like good news to me, but that "if" is bugging me somewhat).
After my sister moved out last year, we kept in touch and arranged visits/double dates via email. I still have those emails, and one of the detectives requested I send them over, which I did. There's nothing in there but evidence of me and my sister being extremely friendly with each other, joking, helping each other out. All this in the aftermath of my supposed assault on her. I still have no idea why my sister would do something like this (we had no major fallouts in the past year, I thought we had a shining brother/sister relationship) and neither do the detectives. Which makes things quite difficult for me, as I can't really give them motive for my sister filing a false accusation. All I can think about now is perhaps it has something to do with her mental / depression issues? I'm no psychologist, however.
Anyways, this is the story of the events from my perspective. I'm feeling really lost and betrayed, though luckily I have a loving girlfriend who's been extremely supportive through all this. So now we have the following:
Sister with depression issues claims sexual assault a year ago. Over the course of this last year, we're on extremely good terms, nothing to indicate any sort of assault took place. Suddenly, sister cuts all communication and a month later I have a police interview. I did nothing to my sister, and have no idea why she would accuse me.
Based on the events listed above, where does this go from here? I dont see how anything can be proven against me (I did nothing wrong, and i hope our great relationship this past year attests to that), and yet I can't explain to them why she would accuse me. Thank you for your replies in advance.
A few days ago, my girlfriend and I received a visit from a couple of detectives who asked me to come to the station with them regarding a charge that was filed against me. Upon arriving at the station, I was informed that my younger sister (we're both in early to mid 20s) has filed a complaint stating that a year ago, I fondled and fingered her in her sleep at which point she woke up and stopped me. (Of course this accusation is not true).
Now that I've read the "You've been falsely accused, now what?" sticky at the top I know I should have requested a solicitor at the interview with me, but instead I went with the "I have nothing to hide as I did nothing wrong, no solicitor needed" approach.
What followed was an hour long interview where I had to outline the relationship my sister and I had - both before she moved out with her boyfriend 7 months ago, and the years of her living with me while she worked on her degree and I supported her financially. We were always on extremely good terms, both me and my girlfriend + her and her boyfriend went on numerous double dates, we invited each other over all the time, I helped her out financially on numerous occasions after she moved out. Basically, we had an extremely good brother/sister relationship this past year - a year after which I supposedly sexually assaulted her in her sleep. Naturally, I maintained my innocence during all this.
We also went into some detail about my sister - on the downside, she's had numerous emotionally abusive relationships, she's suffered from bullemia(sp?) and depression, unable to hold down a job for more than a month, she's worked as a stripper and on at least one occasion (that I'm aware of) accepted payment for sex. On her upside, she's been in therapy + taking antidepressants, and she's a stellar academic - top of her class at a respected university, various internships during summer time, active in feminist groups, etc. As for character references, the detectives mentioned that they spoke to various people and both my sister and I received nothing but praise.
After this hour-long interview, I was put into a cell for roughly two hours. Afterwards, I was called in for a part-two of the interview, which also lasted about an hour.
During the second interview, one of the detectives was a bit more aggressive with the questioning (I figured it was just good cop / bad cop, so I kept my cool and answered everything calmly, honestly, and as clearly as I could). I was asked why would my sister bring up her supposed sexual assault with her counselor if it never happened. They also asked me if I had any birthmarks in my lower regions. I do have a birthmark in my pelvic region, which my sister would know about from us getting bathed together as children (I actually remember her teasing me about it when we were very young, but apparently this was brought forward as a bit of evidence for my accusation) which is what I told the detectives.
At this point, the interview was coming to an end. The detectives put me back in the cell for about 5 minutes saying that they need to call their superior to see if there's anything else they need to ask me. 5 minutes later I was let out of my cell and let free. On a side note, I'm not from the UK originally, but I do intend to get my citizenship. During the interview I mentioned to the detectives that my sister might just be doing this as having a record will ruin my chances of citizenship. As I was being walked out the door, the interviewing detective mentioned that I shouldn't worry about my citizenship if the case gets NFA'd. (Which sounded like good news to me, but that "if" is bugging me somewhat).
After my sister moved out last year, we kept in touch and arranged visits/double dates via email. I still have those emails, and one of the detectives requested I send them over, which I did. There's nothing in there but evidence of me and my sister being extremely friendly with each other, joking, helping each other out. All this in the aftermath of my supposed assault on her. I still have no idea why my sister would do something like this (we had no major fallouts in the past year, I thought we had a shining brother/sister relationship) and neither do the detectives. Which makes things quite difficult for me, as I can't really give them motive for my sister filing a false accusation. All I can think about now is perhaps it has something to do with her mental / depression issues? I'm no psychologist, however.
Anyways, this is the story of the events from my perspective. I'm feeling really lost and betrayed, though luckily I have a loving girlfriend who's been extremely supportive through all this. So now we have the following:
Sister with depression issues claims sexual assault a year ago. Over the course of this last year, we're on extremely good terms, nothing to indicate any sort of assault took place. Suddenly, sister cuts all communication and a month later I have a police interview. I did nothing to my sister, and have no idea why she would accuse me.
Based on the events listed above, where does this go from here? I dont see how anything can be proven against me (I did nothing wrong, and i hope our great relationship this past year attests to that), and yet I can't explain to them why she would accuse me. Thank you for your replies in advance.
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