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Hey, I was wondering if you could help us please.
Myself and my current girlfriend have created this account together.
I am 28 and my ex partner and I were trying to work things out, we were arguing for months, I had called off our engagement, I had paid her for her half of the dog so I could keep him.
One night we went out, then we argued, then we made up, it was always like this. we had make up sex, the same type of sex, normal sex, like we had had for the last two years, nothing out of the ordinary, my flat mate was in the house on the telephone next door.
We argued again, we knew we weren't meant to be together, she wanted her stuff, I offered to help her pack, she refused. We weren't shouting. I think she called the police from our flat, then said goodbye calmly to my flat mate and myself.
Within the hour the police turned up and arrested me. I stayed in over night, my sister picked me up, I was on bail. I stayed at her house, she picked up my dog and we drove to my mothers 4 hours away where I stayed for the weekend. She made me drive back to London, to go into work and inform them of what had happened. It was embarrassing, upsetting, humiliating, heart wrenching.
A week later I was at a function, and met a friend through a friend, who opened up about going through the courts at the time with her ex partner for assault. Over the months we became friends, being able to help each other with the worry and concern. We are now in a relationship, not really a sexual one but we trust and make each other happy. I think when two people are a mess and they find each other they are able to help each other.
I am not young, I am 28 and a Lawyer, of internet policies, not criminal law. I notified work of this at the time, 3months later after the initial accusation I went to the police station and was formerly charged. I have been suspended from work, because of this. It is less than 2 weeks till my first initial court date where I will plead not guilty.
On my mothers life, I did not force sex upon my ex. It was fully consented.
I know enough about Law to know how the system works, however Rape is not my specialised field.
I can't sleep anymore. I'm over eating, then under eating, I'm moody, and stressed. I'm so scared. My friends and family are supporting me, my work colleagues believe me, but have to follow procedures.
I feel that my ex is revengeful that I did not want her back, and wanted to ruin my life. I heard that she flew out a week after the alleged incident to a party place in Europe and been partying, for 6months and acting slutty. Mutual friends have provided photographs of her in revealing clothes pole dancing that have been uploaded onto facebook soon after the alleged date.
I know that I am innocent, that I am lucky to have a new girlfriend that loves me and believes me, and my family, friends and work colleagues have been so supportive, also that the evidence proving that I am innocent, a statement from my flatmate stating that she was fine.
I worry because I am a lawyer, that convicting me would be a big tick in the CPS book.
I think I'm looking for reassurance, a friend who knows what I am going through. My Barristers and solicitors are amazing, recommended by a friend. Please if any of you know what I am going through can you please help.
I will not survive in prison. I can't bare to be in London any more, I hate it, I dream about her chasing me. It is taking over my life. please. x
Myself and my current girlfriend have created this account together.
I am 28 and my ex partner and I were trying to work things out, we were arguing for months, I had called off our engagement, I had paid her for her half of the dog so I could keep him.
One night we went out, then we argued, then we made up, it was always like this. we had make up sex, the same type of sex, normal sex, like we had had for the last two years, nothing out of the ordinary, my flat mate was in the house on the telephone next door.
We argued again, we knew we weren't meant to be together, she wanted her stuff, I offered to help her pack, she refused. We weren't shouting. I think she called the police from our flat, then said goodbye calmly to my flat mate and myself.
Within the hour the police turned up and arrested me. I stayed in over night, my sister picked me up, I was on bail. I stayed at her house, she picked up my dog and we drove to my mothers 4 hours away where I stayed for the weekend. She made me drive back to London, to go into work and inform them of what had happened. It was embarrassing, upsetting, humiliating, heart wrenching.
A week later I was at a function, and met a friend through a friend, who opened up about going through the courts at the time with her ex partner for assault. Over the months we became friends, being able to help each other with the worry and concern. We are now in a relationship, not really a sexual one but we trust and make each other happy. I think when two people are a mess and they find each other they are able to help each other.
I am not young, I am 28 and a Lawyer, of internet policies, not criminal law. I notified work of this at the time, 3months later after the initial accusation I went to the police station and was formerly charged. I have been suspended from work, because of this. It is less than 2 weeks till my first initial court date where I will plead not guilty.
On my mothers life, I did not force sex upon my ex. It was fully consented.
I know enough about Law to know how the system works, however Rape is not my specialised field.
I can't sleep anymore. I'm over eating, then under eating, I'm moody, and stressed. I'm so scared. My friends and family are supporting me, my work colleagues believe me, but have to follow procedures.
I feel that my ex is revengeful that I did not want her back, and wanted to ruin my life. I heard that she flew out a week after the alleged incident to a party place in Europe and been partying, for 6months and acting slutty. Mutual friends have provided photographs of her in revealing clothes pole dancing that have been uploaded onto facebook soon after the alleged date.
I know that I am innocent, that I am lucky to have a new girlfriend that loves me and believes me, and my family, friends and work colleagues have been so supportive, also that the evidence proving that I am innocent, a statement from my flatmate stating that she was fine.
I worry because I am a lawyer, that convicting me would be a big tick in the CPS book.
I think I'm looking for reassurance, a friend who knows what I am going through. My Barristers and solicitors are amazing, recommended by a friend. Please if any of you know what I am going through can you please help.
I will not survive in prison. I can't bare to be in London any more, I hate it, I dream about her chasing me. It is taking over my life. please. x
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