Wife had me arrested

[wakingnightmare]

Hello

Well done.

I think it's really important that you keep doing things. It's very easy to sit and dwell and allow these situations to overwhelm you.

I hope you find somewhere tomorrow.

WN

[terrifieddad]

update

Though not connected with the case I have had some developments today.

Applied for benefits, picked up prescription and tomorrow it's off to homeless welfare to find somewhere to live

[Lilyput]

Well touch wood SS round here are very nice. I called them when someone who knew me threatened to report me before the interview even happened when I told her OH had been invited for an interview, seriously!

So I called them myself, SW who spoke with me said 'an allegation is just an allegation,until the police decide what to do with it or if we need to be involved.'
OIC didn't see a need to contact SS so we've not heard from them but the one on the phone seemed really sympathetic so good social workers do exist.

[AmandaF]

Forensics on electronics can take forever! Thing is, will they find the mentioned dvd?
They found porn on my OH's laptop and it wasn't mentioned in court.
Historic charge didn't appear until 3 days before trial.

As you can see, there is no set way these issues are investigated- it's just a waiting game

[terrifieddad]

interview and bail

Just a quick one about interview under caution and bail.

Interview lasted about an hour including breaks with solicitor to discuss certain points as they arose plus quite a bit of musical chairs and messing with the recording equipment to get it to work. Sound about right?

Historic counts were covered in just a couple of minutes. Is this significant?

And bail was for 28 days even though they knew they would be seizing the computer as wife had mentioned a forced scenario porn video I had shown her. How does this fit with others' experiences?

[AmandaF]

You have to play ball with the SS I'm afraid even though it's very difficult.
I think children are resilient and more aware than we realize- even at a young age and aare able to see things for themselves in simple terms

[terrifieddad]

Social services have told me it's ok to send my daughter a birthday card so they may well be more sympathetic around here. Well here's hoping anyway.

What worries me most is how my wife has explained my sudden disappearance.

[Shah]

well said A12

They play with the kids lifes to suit their needs the SS

[Shah]

Sending hugs to those that need them (((((())))))

so sorry so many married men are finding their selves in this position ita also too easy to do now.
I also feel for those that are genuine rape victims and hope that they get the justice they deserve.

Do what Aresnal12 said and keep your chin up you know you did nothing wrong the truth will evenyually
come out.

Good luck and Take care! You have come to the right place here!

[Arsenal12]

[QUOTE=terrifieddad;60185]I am not expressly forbidden from seeing my children and have been in contact with social services. They see no reason why I cannot write to them through them during the initial assessment. I also stated I would be cooperative with them. My kids are my main focus and apart from seeing them as soon as possible I really need to know what she has told them about my sudden disappearance.

I take it you haven't seen yours yet?[/QUOte


Mmm......social services told be the exact same thing...........

Social services rub thier hands in situations like this.......

But believe.... Others will also tell....you......

Seeing you children is going to be laden with obstacle after obstacle........

You are quite right it depends what she has told social services.....however be mindful.....social services will be doing their own "digging for information" by speaking with the police........


Social services have told me...because of the Rape allegation against me .....I'm not to have any type of contact with my Children........making it almost a year....without any type contact...


it is very easy to fall into the trap..........of believing the authorites.... And believing the False compassion they often display.......


The very truth of the matter is.........social services...the police....CPS.....and all other authorities connected to the false accuser do not give a s** about the alleged Perpetrator.....all they see in thier eyes is a poor vulnerable person who has been raped........


I hope you are one of the lucky ones and you can see your children...........

But please do not be fooled by these corrupt authorities........ They will say one thing..... And move the goal posts to suit their alleged victim!

[TotalNightmare]

My wife pulled this on me too in October. In my case the police did seem to have common sense and dropped the case after 5 weeks - had all my electronics seized and was locked up over night though.

Appearing at the family court tomorrow because she has tried to take a Non-Molestation Order out on me. Slightly different in my case in that the motives are now crystal clear - infidelity and attempt to gain permanent UK residency.

You say she "had visited a clinic and staff got her to report it".

This is what my wife did too - she visited her GP who gave her a bunch of bumf about domestic violence, then she called Women's Aid who told her about DV visa concessions and access to public funds for non-UK nationals. A week after returning from a trip to Israel the police came knocking. The GP was the one who insisted that she escalate the situation and go to a refuge. There was no signs of physical violence whatsoever, she just used the financially controlling / emotional card.

Seek motives - ask what does she benefit from doing this? Was there another bloke on the scene and she wanted out whilst saving her reputation? Any signs of emotional / mental instability?

[terrifieddad]

I am not expressly forbidden from seeing my children and have been in contact with social services. They see no reason why I cannot write to them through them during the initial assessment. I also stated I would be cooperative with them. My kids are my main focus and apart from seeing them as soon as possible I really need to know what she has told them about my sudden disappearance.

I take it you haven't seen yours yet?

[Arsenal12]

Very sorry to read about your hideous ordeal.......

I can directly feel your....emotions as ....I too am accused of raping my wife!!!!!!

I would echo Amanda's words.....

And you will find a huge amount of support on here......

In regards to the vaginal tear......I too had this very same concern....however.....perhaps a little different to your case my wife had tears at both births to our children..........and I was worried she would use this against me......

It's a very long long and sometimes dark bleak road.......

You will likely lose all contact with your children as I have.....Heartbreaking..... Yes......in fact no words can describe the pain of not seeing your children........


Like all false accusers Your false accuser or your wife....will have all the authorites.... The police.....CPS....social services..schools......doctors...etc round her devious little finger.......she will be besoted with help....financial assistance.... Etc.......she will be believed...... And you will be thrown to the wolves........

As harsh as this sounds....I'm just being honest.....it really is institutional corruption...... Meanwhile..... Lawyers.....barristers...... Doctors.....corrupt social services will be licking their lips..... In anticipation of financial gain....like vultures.......ready to feed on the vulnerable falsely accused......


Think of her motive?

Why would she make such hideous ludicrous false allegations??

I personally from my ordeal know the motive......behind my False allegations....

Never try and contact her....as you will play wright into the police's hands....of intimidation and all that nonsense...

You have probably heard and read many times.......but you have to keep your chin up.....

YOU ARE A FATHER....fight for your children.... And never let the FALSE ACCUSER win.....never......

Your mind will be catapulted..... With every emotion known to man........you will be confused....angry...heartbroken...

But focus on your children........ And do not blame yourself......

If you have not already perhaps take up excersise.... Or the gym.....it really can help......

I would also say....be very wary of your "circle"... As in friends and even family.......your " barrier of trust has been severely breached......therefore you must be very wary......of others close to you.......

Your trust in your family and friends will have been wounded badly. Because if the mother of your children can do this then who is anyone else???......but there are good people out there.....so don't lose hope completly.....


Finally.....

Stand TALL....KEEP YOUR CHIN UP...don't let the FALSE ACCUSER WIPE THIER filthy shoes all over you!.....stand UP STAND PROUD......and you WILL PULL THROUGH...........DO IT FOR YOU CHILDREN....

good luck.......

I sincerely wish you all the best.....

Regards
A12

[terrifieddad]

Have you reported it??

It would appear that sometimes women play the rape card to avoid custody battles

The investigating officer has been informed. I'm screwed without it. Can't get a place to live or any benefits without my driving licence and bank cards!

My thoughts exactly. The lack of legal aid in such cases may be a factor. Glad that was inferred from the situation I described.

[AmandaF]

Have you reported it??

It would appear that sometimes women play the rape card to avoid custody battles