Helping my 14 year deal with a false accusation of rape

[phoenix2014]

So pleased for you,enjoy your holiday it's well deserved.

[terrified]

Congratulations on the outcome TM xxx

[tiger mum]

What now?

Thanks for your support guys! I do intend to find out what the police have gathered from the witnesses. At the moment I feel like they believed the girl my lad raped her. I want the school to know what the kids actually told the police about that weekend and what she was up to. It's not enough that we know he is innocent I want to clear his name.

Any advice from those with a NFA regarding your rights to understand what happened would be appreciated. Do you think that I made a complaint of a false allegation and told the police what happened before they tried to arrest my son gives me the right to know what was said? I know the chance of a WPT or PCJ are slim - but I need some explanation which will help my son (and me) move on.

[can it get worse]

Brilliant news.

[tigertiger]

Fantastic News!!! Very pleased for you both, sense prevailed in the end. What a fantastic way to enjoy the rest of your holiday

[whatsgoingon?]

That's brilliant! Will you pursue the matter you reported to the police? All the best, to you and your son whatever you decide. All credit to him for keep on going to school etc despite having to face the little liar every day.

[myhome]

Absolutely brill!!!! Give yourselves time to heal

[Dave]

[tiger mum]

Hurray - NFA for my son!

Were on hols at the moment, but just heard from my son's solicitor that the police have confirmed NO FURTHER ACTION against my son. We know (through her friends) that she was terrified of having to justify her allegations as her friend who had organised the crazy drink/drug fuelled party had to give a video interview looking for evidence. Ie she realized the poor little victim routine was going to be put to the test!

All this strife and trouble, all the wasted resource. This is the trouble with a stupid system which lets FA's get away with saying what they want for whatever reason they have without any objective evaluation of what she/he is saying. I've just read Lenny's post about his lad - in Scotland they dive right in with a charge! Crazy days.

Anyway thanks for the support I've received on here over the nightmare of the past 3 months - its been invaluable as however many people told me to sit back and wait and see what happened I couldn't and I've had to become a bit obsessed just to stay sane. Not sure what we will do from here - but I will take the opportunity to ask the police what's being going on as they are both at the same school and they have been really supportive of my son and they deserve some answers regarding what these daft girls are capable of.

And here we go - xxxx

Tiger mum.

[can it get worse]

Thanks for responses - but its obvious there isn't much of a chance of the police taking any action when she is so young. However my son is the same age as her the police should feel a duty of care towards him as a victim.

If they do confirm they will not be taking further action, at that point do they disclose anything about their investigation and what reason the girl has given for withdrawing her allegation? Or are we just meant to slope off eternally grateful? I know she is young, but her actions are totally malicious. I business colleague's son went through the same trauma some year's ago - recently the police got back in touch and asked him to be a witness against his FA as she had done it again and they wanted to prosecute for PCJ. He told them to get stuffed as he felt so badly done to first time around and wasn't going to provoke this girl's scary family - he'd had enough with the trauma of it.

But if nothing happens, no caution or telling off, no apology or explanation - what do these girls learn? Its daft.

Firstly, so glad to hear your 'good news'. But disgusted it got this far for your son ....disgusted it gets further than this for many people.

It totally enrages me about the lack of redress afterwards. Your last post in which you talk about a colleague's son is appalling. This despicable experience has left him understandably with no obligation to be a witness against a liar. This is the far reaching affect that a false allegation has on society.

'No winners' in this game are very true words.

[tiger mum]

Thanks for the info!

Thanks for responses - but its obvious there isn't much of a chance of the police taking any action when she is so young. However my son is the same age as her the police should feel a duty of care towards him as a victim.

If they do confirm they will not be taking further action, at that point do they disclose anything about their investigation and what reason the girl has given for withdrawing her allegation? Or are we just meant to slope off eternally grateful? I know she is young, but her actions are totally malicious. I business colleague's son went through the same trauma some year's ago - recently the police got back in touch and asked him to be a witness against his FA as she had done it again and they wanted to prosecute for PCJ. He told them to get stuffed as he felt so badly done to first time around and wasn't going to provoke this girl's scary family - he'd had enough with the trauma of it.

But if nothing happens, no caution or telling off, no apology or explanation - what do these girls learn? Its daft.

[tigertiger]

Good news indeed. With her withdrawing support this will have damaged the case even further not that there was a case in the first place. With her withdrawing, your son not talking and no real evidence supporting her then it sounds like the police dont have a case. Everything crossed they will see that and not even pass it to the CPS. Obviously your not going to begin to relax until you get the NFA. But this all sounds like a giant positive step forward doesnt it.

Hes very very lucky indeed that you got a specialist on board who managed to save him from arrest. Knowing im forever going to have an arrest for a rape allegation on my record even if it goes to NFA is a pretty tough thing to come to terms with.


Can quite imagine hes now scared stiff and well really I think every man in this country should be, getting involved with anyone new really is playing Russian Roulette with your life.


I can feel your blood boiling and wanting to channel that energy into correcting this wrong. I hope you can find something you can sink your teeth into, helping others maybe to make enough noise to change the system at least (in the event your son decides he really doesnt want you to challenge his particular case).

[Casehardened]

Hi TM,

Sounds good news for your son, but I'm not going to risk your wrath by telling you that there's nothing you can do (but the CPS are never going to prosecute a minor for PCJ especially if its a first offence) so I'll just post a relevant link:

http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...pe-allegations

Why not compose a suitably irate letter to Chris Grayling & copy it to your MP.....

[tiger mum]

sorry think my typing too quick!

Sorry for typos in post - seem to be a lot of duplication - furious fingers going too quick for site to process!

[tiger mum]

Latest news - feedback please?

Hi all - been finding it increasingly difficult to get on without this worry overwhelming me - but yesterday I got some good news which has left me with mixed emotions. The investigating police officer finally returned my son's solicitor's calls and told him the girl had decided not to pursue her allegation. We knew something had happened two weeks ago as the girls at school were gossiping, but the police wouldn't disclose what had happened to me.

My son's solicitor thinks this is excellent as it means with no DNA evidence, no confession from my son, plus the girl asking the police not to press charges and be a uncooperative witness - it is unlikely to go further. The police officer has told my son's solicitor she has to write a report for her Inspector (which will take a couple more weeks for her to fit it in with her workload) and he will decide whether to refer to the CPS.

It's no surprise to me that the lying little cow has changed her story - here we go again - she told umpteen versions of what happened that night to anyone who would listen and it changed on an hourly basis (all recorded on facebook/twitter/instagram etc). But I KNEW she was making it all up as the only version which made sense was that sex/rape did NOT occur. Everyone could see that there was no case and she would be totally humiliated by a trial - but my son who hadn't done anything except have an illegal drink and go in a room with her would be an excellent witness as all he had to do was tell the truth. She had drink/drugs/multiple partners of both sexes - all whilst doing the poor little innocent victim routine with her parents and the police. The witnesses who were there told the police exactly what they saw/heard that night - I know this as my friends were with their sons whilst interviewed as appropriate adults.

But it feels like the ONLY person who is seeing all this as a gross miscarriage of justice is me! To be fair my son is so sick of it all, trying to dodge her at school, having this hanging over him, all he wants is it to be over. I'm sooooo relieved he may not have to face a trial, but for gods sake! This was all evidence BEFORE she even spoke to the police - I took my complaint about her accusations, and evidence she was lying to the police before she made the allegations to them that my son raped her - but they still progressed taking her complaint seriously. The police resources wasted on this is ridiculous - surely they have proper criminals to chase who have actually committed crimes. I don't have daughters but and please don't tell me if I had one I'd want to have a rape allegation from her taken seriously - of course I would - but this scheming little vixen has a track record of inventing stories for attention - do her parents not know her? Do they not realise the angst this has caused an innocent child?

Now I'm not discounting the need for the police to give support to rape victims and pursue rapists but this was so ridiculous from day 1. I feel like I've been holding my breath for 3 months with every waking thought being about what he faces and how this will impact on his future.

Because my son had a specialist solicitor when they tried to arrest him he won't have an arrest on his record as we volunteered his DNA - but if that had not have happened, and it seems to happen quite rarely - he would have this on his record. There will still be the prospect of this hanging over him - he's only 15 - he is now scared stiff of the opposite sex.

It seems likely that this will be NFA - but what further action can this fuming mum take? Ideas please? My son's solicitor said well lets cross that bridge when we get to it - however that's up to you and your son. Taking on board my son's wishes to put it all behind him (which I totally respect) how do others feel about this? I don't want the relief of getting NFA cloud my judgement as I want some redress - not sure what/how to achieve this (legally). + =