Hi my partner has being charged, i need help!!

[thisisinsane]

I want to raise awareness of being falsely accused and set up a campaign to get the law changed so you are not named in the media until you are found guilty, will people help me on that mission because i really really want to help people who you falsely accused!

I thunk thats a really good idea. Where im from people whi are accused or suspected of a crime do not get their names mentioned at all, even if found guilty. I find the police practice of giving away the names of innocent people and offenders alike very conflicting with human rights and at least i know it would be against out national constitution - don't know about UK though.
I am feeling exactly the same about this as you and i think probably everybody here has felt like starting a revolution before. I'd be in

[HKM20]

Not guilty!!!!

OMG my partner was found NOT GUILTY by all 12 members of the jury! I have never felt emotions like it I could actually feel a pulse in my mouth! My partner fainted half way walking out the court and my legs wouldnt work to get up and follow, I have never sobbed so much in relief, finally 18 months of hell is over!

[Faith]

Sending out positive thoughts and hope that justice is served. Stay strong OP.

PS Noticed the name Stephen Cooper floating in this thread...will warn any members to be very much on their guard if dealing with him.

[thisisinsane]

She gave me her phone number and i will call if we don't hear from herthis week. Hope everything went well

[can it get worse]

Hello - hope you are ok?

Does anyone have the contact details for HKM20 to get in touch with her?

We haven't heard from her all week. Hope every thing is ok and that the reason she hasn't posted is because she has been pre occupied with the trial.

Hope it is over and they had a positive outcome.

[thisisinsane]

Im thinking of you and your family. I hope everything went well (((hugs)))

[myhome]

Hoping everything has been as ok as it can be to-day - thinking of you......

[worriedgirl]

hi, thinking of you and wishing you all the best as you go through this. stay strong and keep positive.

[can it get worse]

Hi - hope the first day has gone ok for your partner.

And that your team have proved to be as good as you expected. The fact that the charge has reduced has got to be a good sign.

xx

[thisisinsane]

Hi HKM Ive been thinking of you and your husband today, hope it went well. I cant give much advice but i think it is a good sign they changed the charge to indecent assault - to me it looks like they don't really have muvh against your husband and they probably realised themselves they won't get through with a rape charge, still both accusations are ridiculous.
I hope you're lucky and have a reasonable jury.
Good luck to xou and your husband. Look forward to when this nightmare is over. Xxx

[is there justice?]

HKM , will be thinking of you both. Let's hope the case falls to pieces early on. My best wishes for a good result.

[Casehardened]

Very best wishes to you both for today

There is a thread in the Useful Information section of the forum about what to expect at trial:

http://www.daftmoo.org.uk/mooforum/s...xpect-at-Trial

As IRB777 has said tell him not to get angry at the prosecution barrister's questioning; but respond calmly and positively while looking towards the jury (but don't stare at any one member, imagine he's talking to them as if he's a lecturer!)

[IRB777]

Ive never been to trial for rape im still on pre charge bail innocently accused. All i can say is tell him to keep calm the defence have to put there case first ,so if he gives evidence it wont be for a day or so. This will give him chance to get used to the court room and what too expect and will cut down on nerves. He needs to come across as reasonable, an everyday man wrongly accused a victim. The worst thing that can happen is for him to lose his temper when being cross examined. he must keep calm. Give his evidence and truth will find a way. I saw a fantastic quote on here earlier " The truth is like a Lion. You dont have to defend it. Let it loose. It will defend itself. " and its very true liars get caught out in court, the truth never does, have faith in that and good luck.

[HKM20]

Trial Week

Ok guys tomrow is the start of the trial and I feel like i am in a living hell, I will be sitting in the gallery to support by partner can anyone give me any advice to give my partner as i am utterly clueless, i have said to him to be himself as he always comes across as a really likable person but i dont know if i am right or not to give that advice. So nervous I could vomit. At least the rape charged was changed to indecent assault a few months ago so hopefully that is a good thing. xxxx

[myhome]

Its really a tough job to keep somebody you love from committing suicide

Absolutely right it is. This is what my sister said to me when I told her I'd found a friend to take my dogs and written a suicide note the previous evening.

"So what's supposed to happen then? I get a knock on the door from the police who tell me that my lovely sister has killed herself and would I go and identify the body? Is that how it works?"

That's tough love but it certainly made me stop and think; I'd never thought of any of that before. I just didn't want to live with the hell that I was (am) going through. Now, at my very lowest times I just look into the eyes of my beautiful faithful dogs and know that I couldn't do it to them....

Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary dreadful situation....

keep strong hon and try to persuade your other half to seek help, and don't forget that you need support too........ MH