husband accused!!!

[Boys don't cry]

Thank you Rights Fighter.

My solicitor did make me feel more confident and was pushing even though the barrister was doubting thanks to his experience .
The barrister was "testing me" acting nearly like the CPS but it is true it was for my own good.
I met him once in London,thought it would be a nice day off...
I took back the first bus,the first train to the ghost town
He k....d me.
My barrister depite this was like " Heaven must be missing an Angel ".
Legal aid saved me and when you are in this position,
don't worry about money ,just try to save your skin.
If I had been into jail,I woudn't be allowed to write to you.
My ex wife would be even more happy,my son ashamed of me.
Work...forget about it,family ...forget about it.
I know I sound a bit like Donnie Brasco's "Forget about it" but Nina Simone sang "Ain't got no....I got Life".

Scarlett,,sorry about these posts ,we are always with you.

[Rights Fighter]

@boys don't cry sadly the more money a person has the better the lawyer will be.Unless somone is very lucky like you who ended up with a lawyer with 40 years of info :P

This is not quite accurate.

Not all solicitors paid by legal aid are rubbish. Some do a damn good job and one does not have to spend a fortune on paying for a good defence.

Today a member of this group got a not guilty verdict and that was with a legally aided solicitor and barrister.

I've supported many people over the years who have paid out thousands and then been found guilty.

It is the solicitor and barrister that is important (that and a good jury with more than half a brain cell between them).

[Boys don't cry]

@ Wunderland.
Forgiven.

[wunderland]

@boys dont cry,
Sorry mate please don't be upset i got confused sorry please forgive me

[Boys don't cry]

You have all my suppport Scarlett,keep strong.

God bless you Faith .

[Faith]

Indeed, even when found not guilty, the pain will never leave.
Once falsely accused of something like this, I don't believe in luck. Being put in a situation like this is the worst kind of luck there is.

I hope that vent helped BDC
Anyway back to topic...

I don't buy into the thought that more money=better defence. Not necessarily. There are plenty of good legal teams who work on legal aid, so I hope the OP doesn't lose faith in that thought

[Boys don't cry]

[COLOR="rgb(0, 0, 0)"][/COLOR]Unless somone is very lucky like you who ended up with a lawyer with 40 years of info :P (From Wunderland)

Very lucky like, me? Wunderland.

Sorry for this post.But as you may be aware my wife was cheating on me.
I have been kicked out of the house for someone else and money.
I haven't seen my 10 years old son (God) since a bit more than a year now.
I am still going to County Court to fight just to try to see him.
I feel like being an Alien at work.
I have been in front page of the local newspapers.
I still receive emails from my solicitors that my wife NEED to know about my finances.
Sorry ,I forgot ,I had a motorbike accident 2 days after being rebailed for the first time.
Nearly everyday I cry and most of the time I would like to ...it.
My health is deterioring but I won't go and see a doctor or anybodyelse.
Once again I AM SORRY,I WORKED 10 YEARS WITHOUT HOLIDAYS,7 DAYS A WEEK TO PROVIDE THE BEST FOR MY FAMILY AND I AM ENDING LIKE S......G MYSELF.
DO YOU REALLY THINK THIS IS LUCK???
DO YOU THINK IT IS LUCK TO BE FALSELY ACCUSED BY YOUR OWN WIFE???
DO YOU THINK IT IS LUCK FOR MY SON NOT TO SEE HIS FATHER???
I SAVED FOR THEM,I HAVE NOTHING,JUST A NICE BICYCLE.

SO,PLEASE,WITH ALL DUE RESPECT...

JUST ONE MORE THING,I AM NOT SORRY TO HAVE BEEN FOUND NOT GUILTY BECAUSE I RESPECT EVERYONE.

(I do not judge people from their politic views,their income,their sex,their tendancies,their nationalities...)

WE ARE IN THIS FORUM TO HELP EACH OTHER.

[wunderland]

@boys don't cry sadly the more money a person has the better the lawyer will be.Unless somone is very lucky like you who ended up with a lawyer with 40 years of info :P

[Boys don't cry]

I wish I could had something else but you had excellent replies from everyone.
-Take a solicitor.
-Collect as much information as you can and only deal with your solicitor.
-Be extremely careful whith posts on facebook and avoid any contact with your husdband's ex daughter.
-If your husband's ex doesn't believe her own daughter ,try via the solicitor to get a statement ASAP from her as she may change her mind.
-Wait and then if unfortunately your husband is charged I would get legal aid.
(Sorry Wunderland or anyone:what does mean by choping in a 2£ shop?.)
I had legal aid and I am not sure if it was to chose a barrister,but mine had 40 years experience and God bless him.
It did cost me around 4 000£ but as I was found not guilty I will get them back.

I do hope your husband will not have to live this and I know it seems hard but he must try to go on with his life.He is already lucky that you and his ex are supporting him.Trust him but I am afraid you will have to understand his mood swings.
Take care both of you.

[Faith]

The solicitor's advice is 100% on the mark...don't share evidence with the police. Sit back during this stage. very difficult yes, but the police will not be looking for ways to drop the case, they are looking for ways to secure a conviction.

I do not agree that you should delete the Facebook page as, like Rights Fighter says, it can be a means of gathering evidence if and when a charge comes. But yes, set it to private.

Also, take care with how much detail you post here. never forget that this forum can be accessed by anyone. If your husband's statement is posted word for word, it might be wise to ask a mod to edit it down else you might be recognised by any police snooping around here.

[J&PVTHW]

Hi Scarlett

I was told and have collected lots of facebook evidence against my son's accuser in case he is charged. It is relevant evidence and can be used in court if your case goes that far.

Please collect as much correspondance as you possibly can from your husband's accuser be it from facebook or text messages she may have sent your husband or his ex wife. I have collected every bit of dirt i can on my son's accuser, some of it may not be allowed to be used in court but it is better to be armed with info than have nothing at all.

I have closed down my sons facebook page but only after i had extracted every bit of relevant info that i needed to support my son. The theory behind closing the facebook account is that if you were to leave it open you could end up with a barrel of abuse.

The only advice i can give you is this is not something that goes away quickly and you may find that you are re-bailed several times. Try and stay as positive as you can i know its easier said than done.

Big hugs

[Rights Fighter]

Facebook can also be an invaluable tool providing you take screenshots and not copy/pastes of helpful posts on there. You can set privacy settings to entirely private so that only your friends can see your profile (or even that you are on there at all) if you wish.

Keep coming back and updating us so you can be suitably advised.

[wunderland]

facebook is evil and mothing good can come fro having an account it can be used against you i think

[wunderland]

FACEBOOK OMG HAHAHAHAHA the first thing i did was from the police station i GOT my lawyer to delete my facebook account DELETE DELETE DELETE it's the first thing the evil police to type your name in google and take everything down delete that **** but make sure your solicitor does not need any of it first but take it away from the public's eye your family is going to want to be living low key or your husband is for sure

[wunderland]

make sure your husband get's fresh air if he's up to it goes for walks etc that's why it's good for him to get medicated either way he will come back to you don't worry he is just in massive shock atm i really REALLY recommend he get's medicated it will help you so much he is probably suffering massive post traumatic stress I think this has taken 10 years of my life when it ends it will be like england won the nazi's for me
it will be like V DAY THE WAR WILL END and i can sleep normaly again without the nightmares good luck the secret is THIS WILL PROBABLY BE A LONG PROCESS BUT LIFE MUST GO ON YOU GUYS MUST NOT LET IT EAT YOU TRY YOUR BEST TO BE HAPPY AND WORK EVEN THOUGH IT SOUNDS HARD DON'T GIVE UP