husband accused!!!

[scarlett]

Thanks!! We went to see a solicitor on Friday who also advised up to keep all Facebook and other info to ourself because that would be best used if he was charged. When I asked the solicitor what he thought of the case, he said he thought it was a mess as she has no evidence at all, and the situation she's stating doesn't reflect those of the people that were actually there that evening. The solicitor has told us to sit tight and not do anything, easier said than done. I just need to know what's coming next!

[wunderland]

It's very important for you guys to speak to a lawyer take your husband to the dr I WAS IN A nervous breakdown went mad and a dr put me on zoloft 100mg it will take a few weeks but it will make come back and will help him cope you guys will need the energy i don't know about the kids but like i said a lawyer will help with this unfortunately the better the lawyer is the more expensive but now is the most important time start WITH YOU HUSBANDS EX YOU will want your solicitor to take a statement from your husbands ex and anyone else asap as people change their minds all the time saying she was watching this could save your husband from everything that is very good she was watching see that's fantastic also if you can't afford a lawyer there is legal aid but they are I think like shopping at a $2 store

[wunderland]

Hello,
saffron is correct it sounds like VERY serious and the best thing your husband can do is contact a solicitor ASAP also be carefull when speaking over the phone etc as the police could try listen to gather more info also don't contact the girl If you husband is depressed I would see a doctor about getting medicated the begining is the worst it's a horrible terrifying time until over the months you guys will start to accept things If i could go back in time i would have said to myself don't worry to much it's not worth it anti-depressants and good lawyers 2 best things i could recomment and like saffron said the less you speak the better AND REMEMBER THE POLICE WILL PRETEND TO BE YOUR FRIEND BUT THEY ARE PRETENDING AND ARE LIKE WOLVES DRESSED IN SHEEPS CLOTHING IT'S YOUR LAWYER WHO WILL SPEAK TO THEM BY LAW YOU CAN REFUSE TO

[scarlett]

Thanks for your reply. My husband and his ex are the best of friends as my husband has custody of his 3 children because she wasn't coping, but even after everything they have been through she has said it was not possible that it could have happened with so many people around, and she was keeping her eye on her through the evening because she kept going upstairs.

My husband isn't coping very well, his not eating and is barely sleeping. I'm trying my best to keep him in high spirits, but as to be expected I'm not succeeding very well.
I'm trying to hold our family together by looking after his children and my own two. I also have that on my mind! I don't know what happens in regards to social services in these cases, will they get involved with our children? That is constantly on my mind, as well as trying to do the norm for them so they don't realise anythings different.

[Saffron]

Hello and welcome.

Unfortunately your husband has learnt the hard way that he should never ever give proof of alibi to the police. They will then go back to the accuser and encourage her to say that she "may have got the date wrong" due to the "emotional confusion". However, sge was very specific about the precise date. And as it was Boxing Day it's a memorable day, i.e. not just a general day.

I urge you to keep any evidence you have found between yourself, your husband and your solicitor. Under no circumstances pass it to the police. I know it's hard to believe at this point, but Plod are not interested in anything that may prove your hubby's innocence. In the worst case they might "lose" the evidence and in the best case they will simply ignore it. The police are not on your side, I'm afraid.

What you have said about them telling your hubby it was "his chance to get the real story across" is all too familiar.

You need to get a specialist solicitor on board - one who has extensive experience of successfully defending false allegations of sex crimes. If you post up your county (nothing more!) there may be a sol we can recommend.

Is your husband on good terms with his ex? If so he should ask her to volunteer as a character witness. As she has had dealings with the accuser before she could be a powerful defence witness.

How is your hubby coping? How are you coping? Something like this is life-changing. No doubt others will be along soon with further advice. In the meantime, welcome.

[scarlett]

Hi everyone,

Last sunday my husband got a phone call from is mother saying the police had been looking for him at her address. Not knowing what it was for he went to the police station where he spent 5 hours to then come out and tell me he was being accoused of historicial rape! involving my husband and a now 16 year old girl, who claims she would have been 14 at the time. he wasnt charged, but bailed until the 17th june.

i would be greatfull for any advice on this situation. this is how it stands at the moment.

Her statement claims:
On the 26th of december 2010 she was at my husbands house with his ex her dad and his partner having drinks for my husbands birthday! she claims, when her dad and his partner went home his ex had fallen asleep on the sofa and my husband dragged her upstairs telling her to shut up, were he then raped her! this is all we know because at that point my husband stopped the officer interviewing him stating he didnt need to hear anymore as that itself was the biggest load of rubbish! the officer had said it was his chance to get his side across regarding the incident, my husband replied by saying there was no incident as it was all rubbish!

His statement:
He first stated that this could not have happened on this date as he was with me all day, which he was as it was our first christmas together! the officer then stated she must have got her dates wrong which often happens!
He then went on to say that this actual gathering of people happen the year before, december 2009, but no such thing happened! after having drinks for his birthday he went up to bed roughly befor midnight to watch tv in bed and fall asleep. while leaving his ex and her daughther up and still drinking, this girl in question was also still down there. This girl was also apparently drinking and very drunk at this point! she kept going upstairs to wear my husband was and sitting on the end of the bed, and he had to keep getting his ex's daugther to keep taking her back downstairs!
He also stated to the police that he was good friends with her dad at the time and thats how this girl got involved in there life, was because she was his daugther!
He said even after this night she was still coming round with her dad my husband was still going to there house, and everytime my husband called her dad she would be asking to talking to my husband, so at this point was making no sense to mu husband why she would be doing this to him. my husband did not have a solicitor present with him in his interview as he didnt feel he needed one given the fact he didnt do anything wrong.

two days later he went he to collect his children from his ex partner when he told her what had happened and that she should expect a visit from the police, when he explained when then was she gave him imformation even he couldnt remember.
for instance. this girl had been sick all down herself and had to be given one of my husbands t-shirts to wear. the fact that 3 other people turned up for drinks and stayed there all night. my husbands ex also told him that she didnt even go to sleep that night.
so in light of it all i dont think she thought about her lie all that well!

after alot of searching i managed to find her on facebook where i managed to backtrack to 2009 where 3 days after this supposed rape toke place she is having an arguement with two girls stating what a bull****ter she is, as she was saying something about friends of theres!!
i have also printed out since 2009 as she had no problem putting posy pictures of herself on there along with flirting with boys and saying how sad it was that she wouldnt have a boyfriend on valentines day. now i know its not really evidence as such, but the girl did not change at all! nothing changed about her personality, and im sure after this apparent thing has happned to you, the last thing you want to do is go on facebook posting comments and pictures.

i think i got it all in there, but as you can imagine i dont really know what is likely to happen from here and also why the police have not spoken to anyone that can prove my husband did not do it.

thanks