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Below i am posting my experience with my ex. Some of it is relevent but some of it may not be. Its abit of a read but ive wrote out time and again similar information that its easier to post what i have already put together, paste it. If anything, it will give a picture of my ex. Please help me to let you understand more areas you do not by asking me its relevance or elaborating. I am depressed and have a unstable mentally sister and girlfriend whom worry me if i am to go to prison. I would like people to offer me advice on anything to help me out, ie, what solicitor, do i need an investigator, etc etc.
In Sept 2011, I went B***** with my sister and her kids, a play den for the kids, my first meeting of L**** my ex, fellow parent of kids at my sisters work and kids school.
First week of oct 2011, im around my sisters and she is having a phone conversation with L*****, she is telling my sister some story about her ex Dave locking her in the bathroom and being aggresive and violent. So me and my sister go around L***** to make sure she is ok. When we get there, she answers and she is fine, acting like nothing has happened, she had been lying about the indcident. We stay for abit then leave. As i was leaving, L***** said are you coming back after i dropped my sister home? i said what do you mean and she invited me back so i did. When i returned, she was naked in her dressing gown and tried to have sex with me but i didnt cos i never rush in like that since ive always been in relationships first.
She invited me at the weekend to go to southend so i accepted. We all went, the whole family, her kids and had a good time down the pier, me and L***** got on well and i liked her thought she liked me but now i know thats just the persona and act she puts on. We got drunk abit together at night then returned home.
I stayed at L*****'s a few times after this and these seemed ok days. Then the **** up she is started. I went to her work with her and she had abit of a cold shoulder towards me around colleagues, fair enough. Then she saw other crech workers in the nursery and introduced me as a mate. i didnt say anything but back at hers i asked 'why didnt you say boyfriend?', but she just said that she wasnt thinking. I just shrugged it off but in the next couple days in similar situations such as times on the phone, still refering to me as a friend, i thought there may be a problem.
Over coming nights i had times in the kitchen cooking for L*****, me and her kids, L******'s ex D*** stopping in his car outside looking through the window staring me out with a finger slash accross the neck, i just ignored but thought is that just jelousy, i thought its over long time ago as she told me, about a year over, why would he be like that? L***** just found amusement from it, mocked him through the window and behind his face and pulled pleased faces of enjoyment in what she was doing.
By now its been a week or so together and every night L***** has been drinking 8 plus cans a beer a night. I one night confront the situation and it causes a arguement where she says its because she is off work and she doesnt normally. i let it go. Ive left L*****'s, a couple of nights later i return to L*****'s and she opens up the door and punches me in the face because she is pissed off at the arguement we had. square punch hard, i instinct punch back and hit her with reasonable but not heavy force as she is ok and i apologise but say how dare you punch me, you have no right, dnt you ever do that again.
I was upset cos ive had that kind of relationship before and i wasnt going through it again. I also was annoyed that i instinctly hit out and connected with her as i dont hit girls. She apologised and we stayed together the night. I left, didnt go back round cos a good male friend of hers was visiting so she asked me not to come by. I decided to go round very late cos i know she stays up late and the guys car is still there and the blinds are all closed as i over time discover she does wenever she has male company, so i go home.
One night, i hear that L***** has been arrested for driving drunk in charge of her car with the kids in it. Apparently she crashed into a vehicle, got out and shouted at the victims because they were complaining of injury, had a tussle pushing the police officer to the ground who then had to be restrain her, all in front of the kids.
I confront L***** about her drinking asking tacticly for her to cut down. She argues with me aand hits me again, i dnt respond with violence just take it. That night at about 4am in the morning, i leave. i drive about for abit then return and see outside the ex D*** car, 4:30 in the morning. the lights in the house are alll off and all the blinds and curtains are shut. L****** usuallly leaves the kitchen window open.
In the morning at 7:30, i return to the house and his car is still there, see L****** naked top of stairs sneakily looking, its time for the kids to be getting up for school. The ex leaves so i immediately knock. I say i know he has stayed. She says well he is the father of her son, the baby and he woke so he came over and stayed on the sofa, she says she is naked cos she is usually sometimes naked when sleeping. I said i couldnt see him on the sofa through gap in curtain. She stumbles with words. I then said that i sneaked in through the window and they were both upstairs asleep in bed together both naked and i just left to avoid injuries fighting.
She panickly says that he must have sneaked in and i reply, i didnt see an act of sex but it does look dodgy, what would you think. she said she would never do that. I remained dubious. One night she tells me about how her ex, the father of J*****, not D***, had let in a mate to rape her as she slept. i obviously liking her believed it. She said that the police got involved and didnt believe her APPARENTLY, she got in a fight with the police and her dad, a punchup, her dad had to try control her but in her like its a proud thing face said he couldnt restrain her, pussy father of hers.
But because her father is, was in the police, the situation was hushed up as far as her actions were concerned, her story...fact or fiction?? Me and L***** have some good days, going out to pub gardens, chilling out. Then she goes back to work, work where in discussions with L*****, she had had past confrontations with about her sexual behaviour around playschool kids, how she used to have sex with the chef at work in a crech and in the cupboard, he still works there. How she got disciplined and how she stole out he office the files so the new manager wont know of any incident. She seemed proud of the fact.
I just let her be. Thought bit wrong in a crech though, wouldnt say to prevent her anger. she has no driving licence now because of her drink driving. I drive her to work drop her off. I pick her up from work and say hi to which she barrages me with shut the **** up i dnt want to talk to you. I say what the ****s up with you. She says shut up. I say ive come out my way to get you and you talk to me like that. We argue some then get home.
i go home. I wait outside before i do and ex turns up and stays. I go home. I take her to work next day after sorting our arguement. Similar on pick up, attitude. Im confused, no reason given. This happens for most days over couple weeks. L***** has been still drinking everyday. One day she makes a phone call to her dealer, im not in the knowledge til after. She puts on makeup and smartens up just to go outside for 5 mins. She comes in and racks up a line of cocaine and snorts it. Half a gram of cocaine in one snort and passes the rest to me. I decline because i dont ike cocaine and she proceeds to do the other half. Im shocked because she has the kids upstairs. I dont rock the boat.
Next day at drop off at work, she says to me to not park close to work so people can see me. I think what, why cant people see me. I return later and have a bag over my head parked as far away as poss as a joke, she argues with me still.
She then starts too use a cabbie to get to work in the morning as i cant handle her anger and violence each day i do so and when i see her after work, she says that she had no money to pay the man so she gave him a blowjob instead, said in a cheeky rub it in my face way. I said, 'you joking arnt you?' and she just grinned, i didnt know what to think.
I met her mum who she has already told me several times she hates and says she is a ****. Her mum seemed lovely, she warned me to not let L***** mess with me. I didnt know what she meant but i thought it was just to do with her anger and nastyness. Nastyness also on a day when a indian neighbour nicely cooked cake for her brought it over, L****** two faced put on a how nice thankyou show then closed the door and mocked her nationality and chucked the cake in the bin saying id never eat food a paki made.
On the phone to most people over my time with her, i would hear her argue with many, and winding up her ex, constant calls to one another, her playing games, always *****y nasty arguing, im thinking you dnt like many people and they dnt like you.
We had an ok xmas time. For weeks L***** was using the same cabbie to go work each day. I never had charge of the kids without another adut present except i think it was once maybe twice i had her daughter on her own where she was too unwelll for school. Following new years days we would have some good days, some silly arguements where i would leave. Some nights now i was sat there with her as she just spent most her time on the phone txting. Some nights now she would have ex round for days at a time. Then i would go round, she would act all innocent, say she really likes me.
Then in he new year, she started to say to me that when she sees my sister, she gets dirty looks. I say u must be reading her wrong. Couple days later and for a period of days she woulld make reference to it again and to it reoccurring when they pass at school. L***** starts making out her beliefs my sister doesnt like her. Then she gets the hump about it. I go and talk to my sister and she is confused. Later on returning to L*****, i say my sister said it didnt happen . L***** started getting upset. says she loves me. I go back to sister who i would never doubt usually, now she is upset by my doubting her, causes a drift between me and my siter.
Previously L***** had told me she gave a previous ex hassle down at the shops when getting beer, said in a proud face smirking. Had valentines, treated me like ****, i treated her special. Found on her phone lots of pics of dicks and messages off blokes, dicks and mesage of the cabbie. I dnt know when she would have time for everyone, but sus off her longtime mate, boyfriend, cabbie, chef.
I know im being played but feel sorry that she is so messed up, drugs, drink, no friends family baby father etc etc, sex problem, seen some lights of faith shine, want to help. mums been in contact with me about L***** behaviour via email, mum having almost breakdown. I tell L***** i know bits. I wanna help her and the kids because i still cared.
Another later night i see a business card and she makes up an excuse for it being there, but that night drunk in bed i can see her txting the number flirting and talking about doing rude things to him. Another day later again, im around the house, she tells me she is tired and dont feel to well so can i go home. i leave but before i pull away in my car, the cabbie comes round and pops in, blinds down. i know its to have sex, dawns on me and im upset, so i just leave never talk to her again no contact. over.
Then two years on, im around my sisters and we are just tallking and my sister says skip her husband got a wierd phonecall and they wouldnt discuss with him, call for my sister. She rings back, child protection, want to speak, my sister at work so they arrange to speak at school where she works. My sister said she would tell me what it is. We say and think woo, what could it be, our real parents where we were taken into care when young, even joked L*****.
The police see my sister and advise her to not leave my nephews and neice with me. My sister tells me the phone call is to do with me so i phone them but get no answer except its to do with me. I then get called back and asked to go to the police station voluntarily. I do and am accused of putting my penis in the mouth of one of her sons. I did everthing for her, tidied the house daily, cooked, looked after the baby, treated her, feed her drink habit because i knew i couldnt stop it. She lost me and bitter because i treated her so well and proper. I know she is capable of lying, this extent because she made stories up all the time, mocks everyone, enjoys being nasty and a *****.
I need real help for mental support, solicitors, do i need a investigator and steps i need to take. Do i go to the police to accuse them of their lies, will they be investigated? Please help, thankyou.
In Sept 2011, I went B***** with my sister and her kids, a play den for the kids, my first meeting of L**** my ex, fellow parent of kids at my sisters work and kids school.
First week of oct 2011, im around my sisters and she is having a phone conversation with L*****, she is telling my sister some story about her ex Dave locking her in the bathroom and being aggresive and violent. So me and my sister go around L***** to make sure she is ok. When we get there, she answers and she is fine, acting like nothing has happened, she had been lying about the indcident. We stay for abit then leave. As i was leaving, L***** said are you coming back after i dropped my sister home? i said what do you mean and she invited me back so i did. When i returned, she was naked in her dressing gown and tried to have sex with me but i didnt cos i never rush in like that since ive always been in relationships first.
She invited me at the weekend to go to southend so i accepted. We all went, the whole family, her kids and had a good time down the pier, me and L***** got on well and i liked her thought she liked me but now i know thats just the persona and act she puts on. We got drunk abit together at night then returned home.
I stayed at L*****'s a few times after this and these seemed ok days. Then the **** up she is started. I went to her work with her and she had abit of a cold shoulder towards me around colleagues, fair enough. Then she saw other crech workers in the nursery and introduced me as a mate. i didnt say anything but back at hers i asked 'why didnt you say boyfriend?', but she just said that she wasnt thinking. I just shrugged it off but in the next couple days in similar situations such as times on the phone, still refering to me as a friend, i thought there may be a problem.
Over coming nights i had times in the kitchen cooking for L*****, me and her kids, L******'s ex D*** stopping in his car outside looking through the window staring me out with a finger slash accross the neck, i just ignored but thought is that just jelousy, i thought its over long time ago as she told me, about a year over, why would he be like that? L***** just found amusement from it, mocked him through the window and behind his face and pulled pleased faces of enjoyment in what she was doing.
By now its been a week or so together and every night L***** has been drinking 8 plus cans a beer a night. I one night confront the situation and it causes a arguement where she says its because she is off work and she doesnt normally. i let it go. Ive left L*****'s, a couple of nights later i return to L*****'s and she opens up the door and punches me in the face because she is pissed off at the arguement we had. square punch hard, i instinct punch back and hit her with reasonable but not heavy force as she is ok and i apologise but say how dare you punch me, you have no right, dnt you ever do that again.
I was upset cos ive had that kind of relationship before and i wasnt going through it again. I also was annoyed that i instinctly hit out and connected with her as i dont hit girls. She apologised and we stayed together the night. I left, didnt go back round cos a good male friend of hers was visiting so she asked me not to come by. I decided to go round very late cos i know she stays up late and the guys car is still there and the blinds are all closed as i over time discover she does wenever she has male company, so i go home.
One night, i hear that L***** has been arrested for driving drunk in charge of her car with the kids in it. Apparently she crashed into a vehicle, got out and shouted at the victims because they were complaining of injury, had a tussle pushing the police officer to the ground who then had to be restrain her, all in front of the kids.
I confront L***** about her drinking asking tacticly for her to cut down. She argues with me aand hits me again, i dnt respond with violence just take it. That night at about 4am in the morning, i leave. i drive about for abit then return and see outside the ex D*** car, 4:30 in the morning. the lights in the house are alll off and all the blinds and curtains are shut. L****** usuallly leaves the kitchen window open.
In the morning at 7:30, i return to the house and his car is still there, see L****** naked top of stairs sneakily looking, its time for the kids to be getting up for school. The ex leaves so i immediately knock. I say i know he has stayed. She says well he is the father of her son, the baby and he woke so he came over and stayed on the sofa, she says she is naked cos she is usually sometimes naked when sleeping. I said i couldnt see him on the sofa through gap in curtain. She stumbles with words. I then said that i sneaked in through the window and they were both upstairs asleep in bed together both naked and i just left to avoid injuries fighting.
She panickly says that he must have sneaked in and i reply, i didnt see an act of sex but it does look dodgy, what would you think. she said she would never do that. I remained dubious. One night she tells me about how her ex, the father of J*****, not D***, had let in a mate to rape her as she slept. i obviously liking her believed it. She said that the police got involved and didnt believe her APPARENTLY, she got in a fight with the police and her dad, a punchup, her dad had to try control her but in her like its a proud thing face said he couldnt restrain her, pussy father of hers.
But because her father is, was in the police, the situation was hushed up as far as her actions were concerned, her story...fact or fiction?? Me and L***** have some good days, going out to pub gardens, chilling out. Then she goes back to work, work where in discussions with L*****, she had had past confrontations with about her sexual behaviour around playschool kids, how she used to have sex with the chef at work in a crech and in the cupboard, he still works there. How she got disciplined and how she stole out he office the files so the new manager wont know of any incident. She seemed proud of the fact.
I just let her be. Thought bit wrong in a crech though, wouldnt say to prevent her anger. she has no driving licence now because of her drink driving. I drive her to work drop her off. I pick her up from work and say hi to which she barrages me with shut the **** up i dnt want to talk to you. I say what the ****s up with you. She says shut up. I say ive come out my way to get you and you talk to me like that. We argue some then get home.
i go home. I wait outside before i do and ex turns up and stays. I go home. I take her to work next day after sorting our arguement. Similar on pick up, attitude. Im confused, no reason given. This happens for most days over couple weeks. L***** has been still drinking everyday. One day she makes a phone call to her dealer, im not in the knowledge til after. She puts on makeup and smartens up just to go outside for 5 mins. She comes in and racks up a line of cocaine and snorts it. Half a gram of cocaine in one snort and passes the rest to me. I decline because i dont ike cocaine and she proceeds to do the other half. Im shocked because she has the kids upstairs. I dont rock the boat.
Next day at drop off at work, she says to me to not park close to work so people can see me. I think what, why cant people see me. I return later and have a bag over my head parked as far away as poss as a joke, she argues with me still.
She then starts too use a cabbie to get to work in the morning as i cant handle her anger and violence each day i do so and when i see her after work, she says that she had no money to pay the man so she gave him a blowjob instead, said in a cheeky rub it in my face way. I said, 'you joking arnt you?' and she just grinned, i didnt know what to think.
I met her mum who she has already told me several times she hates and says she is a ****. Her mum seemed lovely, she warned me to not let L***** mess with me. I didnt know what she meant but i thought it was just to do with her anger and nastyness. Nastyness also on a day when a indian neighbour nicely cooked cake for her brought it over, L****** two faced put on a how nice thankyou show then closed the door and mocked her nationality and chucked the cake in the bin saying id never eat food a paki made.
On the phone to most people over my time with her, i would hear her argue with many, and winding up her ex, constant calls to one another, her playing games, always *****y nasty arguing, im thinking you dnt like many people and they dnt like you.
We had an ok xmas time. For weeks L***** was using the same cabbie to go work each day. I never had charge of the kids without another adut present except i think it was once maybe twice i had her daughter on her own where she was too unwelll for school. Following new years days we would have some good days, some silly arguements where i would leave. Some nights now i was sat there with her as she just spent most her time on the phone txting. Some nights now she would have ex round for days at a time. Then i would go round, she would act all innocent, say she really likes me.
Then in he new year, she started to say to me that when she sees my sister, she gets dirty looks. I say u must be reading her wrong. Couple days later and for a period of days she woulld make reference to it again and to it reoccurring when they pass at school. L***** starts making out her beliefs my sister doesnt like her. Then she gets the hump about it. I go and talk to my sister and she is confused. Later on returning to L*****, i say my sister said it didnt happen . L***** started getting upset. says she loves me. I go back to sister who i would never doubt usually, now she is upset by my doubting her, causes a drift between me and my siter.
Previously L***** had told me she gave a previous ex hassle down at the shops when getting beer, said in a proud face smirking. Had valentines, treated me like ****, i treated her special. Found on her phone lots of pics of dicks and messages off blokes, dicks and mesage of the cabbie. I dnt know when she would have time for everyone, but sus off her longtime mate, boyfriend, cabbie, chef.
I know im being played but feel sorry that she is so messed up, drugs, drink, no friends family baby father etc etc, sex problem, seen some lights of faith shine, want to help. mums been in contact with me about L***** behaviour via email, mum having almost breakdown. I tell L***** i know bits. I wanna help her and the kids because i still cared.
Another later night i see a business card and she makes up an excuse for it being there, but that night drunk in bed i can see her txting the number flirting and talking about doing rude things to him. Another day later again, im around the house, she tells me she is tired and dont feel to well so can i go home. i leave but before i pull away in my car, the cabbie comes round and pops in, blinds down. i know its to have sex, dawns on me and im upset, so i just leave never talk to her again no contact. over.
Then two years on, im around my sisters and we are just tallking and my sister says skip her husband got a wierd phonecall and they wouldnt discuss with him, call for my sister. She rings back, child protection, want to speak, my sister at work so they arrange to speak at school where she works. My sister said she would tell me what it is. We say and think woo, what could it be, our real parents where we were taken into care when young, even joked L*****.
The police see my sister and advise her to not leave my nephews and neice with me. My sister tells me the phone call is to do with me so i phone them but get no answer except its to do with me. I then get called back and asked to go to the police station voluntarily. I do and am accused of putting my penis in the mouth of one of her sons. I did everthing for her, tidied the house daily, cooked, looked after the baby, treated her, feed her drink habit because i knew i couldnt stop it. She lost me and bitter because i treated her so well and proper. I know she is capable of lying, this extent because she made stories up all the time, mocks everyone, enjoys being nasty and a *****.
I need real help for mental support, solicitors, do i need a investigator and steps i need to take. Do i go to the police to accuse them of their lies, will they be investigated? Please help, thankyou.
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