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  • Can't live our lives from being falsely accused!

    Hi everyone I'm fairly new to the website just wanted a little advice on something. Almost two years ago my partner was accused of raping a young girl who was supposed to be a good friend of his. Basically he had slept with her while they were both underage a few weeks after our relationship started, safe to say I was absolutely devastated. But we stayed together because I knew it was 110% not true and we needed each other. So after a hellish year and a half we had a court date, I attended with him and the judge threw out the rape charges. He was however charged with underage sex as he was 14 and she was 12 and placed on a sex offenders register for 2 and a half years plus social work supervision for 2 years. I'm just finding it really difficult now as the girl who accused him got off scot free and is able to go live her life whatever way she wants while myself and my partner (we're now coming up 17) are stuck can't go anywhere, can't have a holiday, can't live together, can't consider children, nothing. Is this right or are they just being severely strict? I just feel like we're still having to suffer at the hands of a liar, our relationship is strained because we can't have a young happy lifestyle without having to look after our shoulders! How can I carry on like this?

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    He may come under what is known as "doli incapax". Did he actually admit to the underage sex? You said he was charged - I assume he was convicted given his inclusion on the SOR.

    If he did not admit it and was found guilty he may well have a case that can be appealed.

    Once you are aged 18 you can live with him. You might have problems with SS if you decide to start a family but that's another step away at the moment. Given that there was only 2 years between them I think it less likely there would be problems (although of course they cannot be ruled out).
    People Appealing Convictions of Sexual Offences ~http://www.pacso.co.uk

    PAFAA details ~ https://pacso.co.uk/pafaa-people-aga...ions-of-abuse/

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    • #3
      No he admitted to the underage sex if he hadn't it would have carried on til next January so he just wanted it over and done with.

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      • #4
        Seems rather unfair that he was underage and so was she, yet he gets penalised, I suppose because she was younger. Might still be worth exploring the business of "doli incapax" with an appeal solicitor. It probably wouldn't work but isn't it worth a try?

        Especially as there were only two years between them AND he too was underage.
        People Appealing Convictions of Sexual Offences ~http://www.pacso.co.uk

        PAFAA details ~ https://pacso.co.uk/pafaa-people-aga...ions-of-abuse/

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        • #5
          I didn't find that fair either, his lawyer was fantastic I'll bring that up with him, I just feel like we're stuck going round in circles. This is all we know we havent been able to have a normal relationship just feels like we never will.

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